Kick the Feeling of Never Feeling Good Enough
Do you never feel good enough? Are you constantly beating yourself up over things you “should do”? Are you always comparing yourself to other teachers? Do you feel like you can’t get “IT ALL DONE” ? Then this episode is for you.
I have been there! I remember at the beginning of my career up until three years ago that I never felt good enough. I felt like I was always trying to prove my worth, my value as a Teacher (which I eventually realized was because I was trying to prove my worth as a human too). How do you earn your worth or your value? Well society has taught us that our value is in production, it's in our grades, it's in quote “how well we do”. So how do we know how well we are doing- we mentally create all these expectations of what it means to be “good enough”.
So these mental expectations turn into our Brains Manual for Measuring UP, and guess what, the bar is always changing, and growing so we are NEVER measuring up.
We are taught to look outside of ourselves for validation for our worth. We are taught that we have to do ALL the things, and do them all WELL ( A++) for us to be or feel good enough.
As a teacher this means:
We feel like we have to meet EVERY STUDENT NEEDS, every day all day, or we feel like we let our students down.
It means that we have to have quote do what we THINK our students parents want of us “design a class website, email parents daily, communicate with them all the time about all the things”
It means mastering and implementing all curriculum with fidelity. ALL the time.
It means if so and so is doing this project with their class that I should too
It means that if so and so can always be upbeat and positive I should be able to too.
You see what slowly begins to happen? We create no space for US to listen and hear what we want to do as Teachers. We create no space for us to be human. We create space where we are constantly shoulding ourselves instead of listening to where we are and where our class is and what we want to do.
What if you decided today, that instead of these built for you expectations, instead of looking outside of yourself for value and worth, you decided that you are already INHERENTLY worthy, you are already VALUEABLE.
What if you could decide today to FEEL Good ENOUGH, no matter what? What if feeling Good Enough was available for you today right now?
All you had to do was make the decision that you are Good Enough and that you don’t have to hustle for your worth.
What about your teaching? What about your schedule? What about your time? What about your time comparing yourself to others or to your perfect self... Would you change?
What if you practiced feeling good enough from within. When we do things from feeling good enough, from self love, it creates different feelings.
If we are doing things out of feeling “ not enough” it will create shame, desperation, graspy.. And feelings that drive actions of urgency, and a little bit of chaos… leaving us never feeling good enough, because we don’t actually take the action we wanted to, due to the heavy feelings created.
BUT if we learned how to FEEL worthy and good enough NO matter what action we take or don’t take. Then we learn to take action from a place of SELF LOVE and SELF CONFIDENCE which creates different kinds of actions and different kinds of results.
What would you let go of, or take off your plate if you Already Felt Good Enough? What thoughts or self beliefs would you change or let go of IF YOU ALREADY FELT WORTHY?
