Why do we do self-defeating things like eating an entire sleeve of cookies when we are supposed to be on a diet? Or running up charges on our credit cards when we’re already struggling to make the minimum payment? Or acting out in ways that sabotage our relationships?

In Taming Your Outer Child:Overcoming Self-Sabotage and Healing From Abandonment (New World Library, February 10, 2015), psychotherapist and author Susan Anderson says that these self-sabotaging behaviors come from an aspect of our personalities that most people aren’t consciously aware of — their Outer Child.

Learn about the proven three-pronged program for stopping the Outer Child’s self-defeating behaviors that gratify in the moment but hurt over the long term.

Let go of past disappointments and self-recrimination and get on with the essential work of healing, building boundaries, and acquiring the skills to reach your goals.