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Ever wondered why some people seem determined to be right at all costs? According to therapist Tanya Ruckstuhl, this behaviour stems from "tremendous insecurity and fragility." When we don't feel worthy enough, we inflate ourselves with arrogance as a protective mechanism.
Tanya brings twenty years of clinical experience and a fascinating multicultural background to this conversation about authentic human connection. Growing up between Jamaica and El Salvador during its civil war gave her unique insights into how people interpret each other across differences—skills desperately needed in today's polarized society.
Her provocatively titled book "How to Be Human and Not an Asshole" addresses what she calls our "crisis of capacity to connect," offering practical wisdom for replacing judgment with curiosity. With refreshing candor, she explains how we can maintain our own boundaries while creating space for others to be their authentic selves.
The conversation takes a particularly illuminating turn when discussing relationship dynamics. Beneath surface-level "communication issues," Tanya reveals that most couples are actually grappling with fears about unmet emotional needs. She offers practical guidance for partners to recognize the different but equally valuable gifts each brings to the relationship, reminding us that "equality is not identical."
For women specifically, Tanya provides actionable advice for breaking cycles of unhealthy relationships and learning to make appropriate demands of partners. Her perspective on social connection—that we should cultivate different friendships for different facets of our personality rather than relying solely on romantic partners—offers a refreshing alternative to codependency.
Whether you're struggling with difficult relationships, seeking to understand those who think differently, or simply wanting to be more fully human, Tanya's blend of professional expertise and personal warmth offers valuable insights for navigating life's complex connections.
My book link is: https://amzn.to/4jQockG
My blog is SeattleTherapist.Wordpress.com
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Ever wondered why some people seem determined to be right at all costs? According to therapist Tanya Ruckstuhl, this behaviour stems from "tremendous insecurity and fragility." When we don't feel worthy enough, we inflate ourselves with arrogance as a protective mechanism.
Tanya brings twenty years of clinical experience and a fascinating multicultural background to this conversation about authentic human connection. Growing up between Jamaica and El Salvador during its civil war gave her unique insights into how people interpret each other across differences—skills desperately needed in today's polarized society.
Her provocatively titled book "How to Be Human and Not an Asshole" addresses what she calls our "crisis of capacity to connect," offering practical wisdom for replacing judgment with curiosity. With refreshing candor, she explains how we can maintain our own boundaries while creating space for others to be their authentic selves.
The conversation takes a particularly illuminating turn when discussing relationship dynamics. Beneath surface-level "communication issues," Tanya reveals that most couples are actually grappling with fears about unmet emotional needs. She offers practical guidance for partners to recognize the different but equally valuable gifts each brings to the relationship, reminding us that "equality is not identical."
For women specifically, Tanya provides actionable advice for breaking cycles of unhealthy relationships and learning to make appropriate demands of partners. Her perspective on social connection—that we should cultivate different friendships for different facets of our personality rather than relying solely on romantic partners—offers a refreshing alternative to codependency.
Whether you're struggling with difficult relationships, seeking to understand those who think differently, or simply wanting to be more fully human, Tanya's blend of professional expertise and personal warmth offers valuable insights for navigating life's complex connections.
My book link is: https://amzn.to/4jQockG
My blog is SeattleTherapist.Wordpress.com
FREE GIFT: Unlocking The Secrets of Abundance
What if you could unlock the secrets to true abundance—not just financial wealth, but a life rich with joy, purpose, and fulfillment? Unlocking the Secrets of Abundance is your guide to shifting your mindset, removing limiting beliefs, and embracing the daily opportunities surrounding you.
Whether you're seeking more prosperity in your business, deeper connections in your relationships, or a sense of personal fulfillment, the key to unlocking abundance starts within. Let’s begin this journey together—because everything you desire is already within your reach.
Join the Movement - Women Like Me Community
Who is Julie Fairhurst?
Julie Fairhurst – Speaker, Author, and Founder of Women Like Me
Julie Fairhurst is a champion for women’s empowerment and the founder of the Women Like Me Book Program. Since 2019, she has published 30 books and 300+ true-life stories—at no cost to the writers—giving women a platform to heal, inspire, and reclaim their power. Dedicated to breaking generational trauma one story at a time, Julie’s mission is to uplift women emotionally and financially, helping them create better lives for themselves and their families.
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