Why do people who abuse stay in their abusive relationships?  It's not something we usually think about, but I've found the perfect person to help us contemplate an uncomfortable subject. I’m delighted to bring you a conversation with Kate, the host of the podcast, Ignorance Was Bless.  Kate is a forensic psychologist and a friend to many in the true crime podcast world. She is always quick to help others and is willing to collaborate. Kate's daughter, Emily made the artwork for the episode today! See her page https://www.facebook.com/UnapologeticArtist/   Ignorance Was Bliss podcast:  https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/ignorance-was-bliss/id1341566170?mt=2  Promo for Murder Mile True-Crime Podcast: https://www.murdermiletours.com/podcast.html Facebook group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/ website:  www.targetedpodcast.com email:     targetedpodcast@gmail.com Twitter:  @targetedpodcast Merchandise:  https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcast

1.18 Targeted Topic:  Why Do Abusers Stay?  With Kate, Ignorance Was Bliss podcast

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Working on a relationship can be hard work.  Today we'll look at the academic research surrounding "emotional labor" and then apply it to Marsha and Donnie's marriage.Promo:  The Rise of King Asilas:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-rise-of-king-asilas/id1316834618Facebook Page:  https://www.facebook.com/targetedpodcast/Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/Instagram:  @targetedpodcastTwitter:  @targetedpodcastwebsite:  www.targetedpodcast.comemail:     targetedpodcast@gmail.comMerchandise: We have two stores now!https://targetedpodcast.threadless.com      https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcastResources in the US:  Need help? In the United States call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area.http://www.thehotline.org/resources/Resources in Australia: The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation has an excellent list of many resources availablehttps://www.allisonbadenclayfoundation.org.au/website-resources/Resources in the UK:Paladin: National Stalking Advocacy Service,http://www.https://paladinservice.co.uk

4.10 Emotional Labor

*Refreshed file submitted as original one had overlapping audio at one point, but it may take a few hours before the new file appears on your app.  If you hear a problem about 10-11 minutes into the episode, delete the episode, refresh feed, and download newer file.Today we'll examine how Marsha Brantley dealt with cognitive inconsistencies when she wrote  in her blog, as well as how she wrote about Donnie and her marriage.  The words chosen by someone can reveal much about the mental state.  Sometimes it is looking at their specifically chosen words, sometimes it is looking at the themes revealed in their words, and sometimes it is looking at word choices they probably wouldn’t have consciously chosen, but show subconscious thoughts.Pouring through the blog, there is a lot of evidence of Marsha engaging in lowering her cognitive dissonance.  Promo:  So Dead Podcast.  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/so-dead/id1447332205Thank you to Andie Elizabeth for reading Marsha's Blog.  Andie was a Vocal Performance and Communication Advertising major from the college where Marsha Brantley once worked.  I think Marsha would have approved.  Check out her vocal work on her website https://andieelizabeth.comFacebook Page:  https://www.facebook.com/targetedpodcast/Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/Instagram:  @targetedpodcastTwitter:  @targetedpodcastwebsite:  www.targetedpodcast.comemail:     targetedpodcast@gmail.comMerchandise: We have two stores now!https://targetedpodcast.threadless.com      https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcastResources in the US:  Need help? In the United States call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area.http://www.thehotline.org/resources/Resources in Australia: The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation has an excellent list of many resources availablehttps://www.allisonbadenclayfoundation.org.au/website-resources/Resources in the UK:Paladin: National Stalking Advocacy Service,http://www.https://paladinservice.co.uk

4.9 Cognitive Clarification Part 2 (Refreshed File)

We know that Marsha was a smart, tenacious, loyal woman who’d learned early in life to have faith that God would meet her needs and she could work through problems herself. It is her faith in particular that leads me to follow a new line of academic research today, Cognitive Dissonance, and discuss how it can impact someone in a domestic violence situation.  There's a much larger body of research about Cognitive Dissonance, so I expanded the episode to outline the theory and explain how it intersects with family violence. Next week, we'll dig into Marsha's blogs and take a look at how she dealt with the cognitive dissonance that she was facing in her life, as well as what we've learned about her from friends and family.If you don't want to hear about the theory and early research studies, you may forward to 18:33 to when we discuss how it intersects with domestic violence.Facebook Page:  https://www.facebook.com/targetedpodcast/Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/Instagram:  @targetedpodcastTwitter:  @targetedpodcastwebsite:  www.targetedpodcast.comemail:     targetedpodcast@gmail.comMerchandise: We have two stores now!https://targetedpodcast.threadless.com      https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcastResources in the US:  Need help? In the United States call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area.http://www.thehotline.org/resources/Resources in Australia: The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation has an excellent list of many resources availablehttps://www.allisonbadenclayfoundation.org.au/website-resources/Resources in the UK:Paladin: National Stalking Advocacy Service,http://www.https://paladinservice.co.uk

4.8 Cognitive Dissonance Part 1

The research indicates that Marsha was actually at a higher risk for life-threatening violence, even though on the surface she didn’t seem to be.  Find out why in today's episode.Facebook Page:  https://www.facebook.com/targetedpodcast/Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/TargetedPodcast/Instagram:  @targetedpodcastTwitter:  @targetedpodcastwebsite:  www.targetedpodcast.comemail:     targetedpodcast@gmail.comMerchandise: We have two stores now!https://targetedpodcast.threadless.com      https://www.teepublic.com/user/targetedpodcastResources in the US:  Need help? In the United States call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area.http://www.thehotline.org/resources/Resources in Australia: The Allison Baden-Clay Foundation has an excellent list of many resources availablehttps://www.allisonbadenclayfoundation.org.au/website-resources/Resources in the UK:Paladin: National Stalking Advocacy Service,http://www.https://paladinservice.co.uk

4.7 Status and Emotional Abuse

My dear friends, I am writing and recording this brief episode after the distressing events on Wednesday, January 6, 2021 in which a group of people – rioters – mobbed the capital of the United States and attempted to stop the Constitutional duties of our legislatures.  I haven't been able to focus on much else this week, so there will not be an episode today.

1.18 Targeted Topic: Why Do Abusers Stay? With Kate, Ignorance Was Bliss podcast

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