I may be biased , but I hope my children focus on themselves and their goals. It's not a crime to be single and live your best life. It's better than being manipulated and walked all over like a doormat. I know firsthand that people are disappointing. You should always ask people straightforward what they want from you. If they can not be honest , that's red flag number one. If their family dismiss their toxic behavior and attitude , then that's toxic trait number two. If their friends know that they're physically , verbally , mentally , emotionally , or financially abusive , then there's all you need to know. You have to know that you're a queen , and you don't ever have to settle. You have to know that you're a king , and you don't have to be in the "market," as they say to experience genuine love and connections.