Failing in our society is viewed as a complete and utter negative that must be avoided at all cost. 

It’s no wonder so many of us have a terrible fear of failure. We dread looking bad in front of others, being embarrassed, appearing weak, incapable or unsuccessful at anything. 

Fear of failure leaves us struggling with perfectionism and traps us in a loop of self doubt and uncertainty. 

Being aware of this fear can bring much relief as it gives us the power to decide what to do with the fear. We can intentionally decide to define failure in our own terms, or to not hold others’ opinions about our “failures” in such high regard. 

By doing this for ourselves we can extend the same grace to our students and teach them that failing is the way we move forward. We can model reaching for excellence by going through every step and mishap. We must be a beginner and we must get things wrong in order to learn. One way we can do this is by sharing appropriate instances of shortcomings if the classroom environment allows it.

Adopting a “failing forward” attitude allows us to relax and experiment. It is the definition of ‘being in our lane’ and honoring our unique path. 

As always, trying to go against the status quo takes practice and patience with ourselves. It’s important that in our quest to adapt a new attitude regarding failure we show ourselves grace and compassion. Afterall, it’s not better ‘there’ than where you are right now.