The Happy Libertarian

Teaching Your Children to Respect Your Need for Sleep


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[Week 14 of 52 Weeks to a Better Relationship With Your Child]

This title is kind of tongue-in-cheek, but kind of not. We can make choices that affect our children’s sleeping habits. We can also, after a certain age, expect them to begin to respect limits. But it is a well known fact that young children are associated with parental sleep deprivation.

How sleep is handled can have a big impact on parent-child relationship due to a few things.

  • It affects how well everyone functions the next day
  • Time to sleep usually occurs when everyone is worn out and prone to lack of self-control
  • Children’s growth means their sleep needs can be constantly changing
  • Sleep means separation on some level
  • Let’s talk about it from 3 perspectives:

    1. Bedtime
    2. Sleeping through the night
    3. Sleep arrangements
    4. Making happy memories at bedtime

      You have probably heard some of this advice about bedtime:

      • create a peaceful atmosphere
      • have a routine
      • anticipate needs
      • read stories together
      • make it a priority to be home by a certain time in order to do the above
      • The goal is to have bedtime be a combination of good memory making and relationship building. You want to look forward to these times with your kids. You want them to feel sleeping is the next and natural step in the process. You want them to be convinced that you like spending time with them. You want them to feel secure in falling asleep.

        Even with this approach, parents are often sleep deprived

        An important question to ask is

        Is it the child’s fault that the parent is sleep deprived?

        In some cases, the answer is quite obviously yes. Babies in particular need round-the-clock care at intervals that unavoidably interrupt sleep. If all a parent does is take care of the baby and snatch some shut eye when the baby does, it can still be very hard to feel rested.

        Fortunately, this doesn’t last forever. The baby grows and reaches an age when his or her body can go longer without eating and has gotten more used to normal daily rhyth

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        The Happy LibertarianBy Laura Blodgett