In this Pride Month x Juneteenth crossover of Tell Me Something Messy, Brandon Kyle Goodman sits down with Emmy-nominated TV personality Justin Sylvester of The Yestergays for a conversation that is hilarious, nostalgic, and deeply healing. They unpack the “Fairy Gayfather” effect: the gay mentors who introduce us to queer culture, chosen family, nightlife, language, safety, and self-permission. Brandon and Justin also get into why gossip can feel like protection, how Black sitcoms and movies shaped their imaginations, and still live rent-free in all our identities. Plus: the viral video of a gay teen standing up for himself. And in Messy Mail, they dig into queer second adolescence, PrEP, desire, and what happens when you finally feel wanted after years of feeling unseen.

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It's giving six hours of sleep, Red Bull, and regret. Brandon is BACK after two Pride weekends in a row, and honey, the stories. Also, Brandon shares their thesis on the difference between gay spaces and queer spaces, and what it feels like to show up fully in your non-binary body when the world wants you in a box. Then it's Love Island time. Then for our bonus, Brandon revisits their chat with LA mayoral candidate Nithya Raman who will be in the runoff election this year so we're sharing her story of the 2022 leaked tapes scandal, and how she clawed back to victory. 

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Happy Pride, Messy Mob!! Brandon is joined by Yvie Oddly and Ryan Mitchell for Part 1 of the messiest Messy x HIGHKEY crossover — and the range is truly unserious.

We’re talking bathhouse recon, Pride anxiety, jealous bottoms, dog-owner slander, and the complicated grief of loving our mothers from a distance. Plus: a listener asks whether Pride is really for everyone, and the group gets into what it means to find your people when the party, the trauma, and the healing are all happening at once.

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Brandon recovers from Pride hangover. Plus: a TV recap, why you shouldn't sleep on J. Lo movies, and some good ol' messy mess with Taylor Tomlinson.

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Happy Pride, Messy Mob!! Writer, comedian Taylor Tomlinson came to play! Brandon and "Tay Tay" imagine a hypothetical "queer-platonic" marriage, debate location sharing etiquette, and Taylor shares one of the most surprising turns a hookup has ever taken in Messy's history. Plus: a listener sends a letter about being rejected by their church community after coming out — and how to grieve a community that won't grieve you back. 

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Summer is here, and Brandon is clearing the calendar for reality TV. Starting with this episode, the messy bonuses are going all-in on the shows running our brains into rot all season — Bravo's Summer House reunion, Love Island USA Season 7 with Ariana Madix hosting, and whatever other reality TV chaos the universe coughs up between now and Labor Day.

And to close out, bonus footage from our episode with Sarah Jones (Tony-winning artist, host of America, Who Hurt You?) on receiving compliments without flinching, being a recovering perfectionist, and why "messy" is the most healed version of yourself.

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Sarah Jones came to the couch and left us speechless. The Tony-winning performer gets radically honest about how she's been "cheating" on every partner—not with another person, but with a fantasy version of who they could become. From there, we spiral into the messy truth about workaholism as a post-traumatic inherited response (yes, she connects it all the way back), and why Trisha Hersey's Rest Is Resistance is the book that changed everything. We dig into messy mail from a listener carrying heartbreak they can't shake, and Sarah delivers the kind of advice that will inspire you to write the text you're waiting for him to send, and send it to yourself. Plus: grief doesn't come with a timeline, quitting is a boss move, therapy shouldn't be your whole identity, and a whispered truth like soup for the soul.

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Brandon has questions, concerns, and possibly a group chat theory. Drake just gave us what feels like a 43-song therapy session, and Brandon would like to know who’s taking notes, who’s holding space, and whether snacks were provided. Also, if you didn’t vote, this may not be your safe space right now.

This Memorial Day Weekend Messy Bonus also features a clip from Brandon’s conversation with Dr. Vanessa Marin on cheating with AI Girlfriends, and a longevity study. Then Brandon makes the case again for scheduling sex — because “spontaneous” is cute until everyone is tired, booked, resentful, and lying.

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Dr. Vanessa Marin gives us the sex ed class boarding school owed us. Brandon and Dr. Marin, creator of the Sex Talks card game, get into scheduling sex, ejaculation myths, open relationships, the surprising problem with fantasies, perimenopause, why “just relax” is terrible advice, and a longevity study involving ejaculations and a sticker chart. 

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Brandon gets into Pam Grier’s three-day orgasm story and the art of surrendering to pleasure, intimacy, and your own body. Then they turn from sex and pleasure to friendship breakups — when to call it quits with your bestie, what couples therapy can teach us about friendship, and when a therapist starts sounding more like a life coach. Plus, Cheyenne Bryant, emotional red flags, and the messy line between healing, honesty, and knowing when a relationship has run its course.

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