Tequila Talks with Toya

I've seen so many "fall-outs" this year!! Specifically Issa and Molly from HBO's "Insecure," which honestly hurt the most! (I'm too emotionally involved in scripted television, I know) So, what do you do when bridges have been burned with a LONG TIME friend?! After time, are you open to repairing? Or is it "F$@k you forever"?! What do you consider a "toxic friendship"? What does not being able to maintain any type of friendship with anyone say about a person? Yassssss, I know this topic  got y'all thinking!!!

I'd hate to ruin the vibe, but grieving is such a huge part of life that always seems too uncomfortable or I guess rather sad to discuss, let's change that! If you know me, you know how often I like to talk about my Mom's life which inevitably leads into the conversation of her after life, it's a form of grieving for me. In what ways do you grieve the loss of a loved one? Do you avoid conversation around it? It's difficult to determine what could be deemed as, "healthy and unhealthy" forms of grieving but do you have any examples? "Grief is not a disorder, a disease or a sign of weakness. It is an emotional, physical and spiritual necessity, the price you pay for love. The only cure for grief is to grieve." - Dr. Earl Grollma

DOWN IN THE VALLEY WHERE THE GIRLS GET NA-KED!! P-Valley really did a number on the girls and more importantly it highlighted homosexuality in the urban community. Did it make you uncomfortable? How often do you subconsciously categorize "Gayness?" Like, have you ever said "he/she too fine to be gay!" How does it make you feel that the main character "Lil Murda" is actually happily married to a woman? I've previously done an episode titled "Undercover Brotha" but tonight's episode willl discuss the more OPENLY side of homosexuality ;) Let's get into it!

As with EVERYTHING, my views on marriage vary by the season and who I'm talking to at the moment, LOL! What are your thoughts?! What are the benefits of marriage? Are they comparable to the benefits of having a life-long partner? How do you determine who to marry? What situations could compromise a marriage? WHEW, grab a drink and let's get into it!

*Sad Face* Episode SEVEN will conclude season 3 of Tequila Talks with Toya and I'm hoping to go out with a bang! I want to discuss all things BLACK!  Well, all things black people related, lol! Specifically, black love, black finances, black families, black health. Yikes, keep in mind we only have an hour so let's make it count! I have yet to curate any questions for the show so feel free to drop some under this post, lol! Chat later!

Whether emotionally, physically, spiritually or mentally; I know all women and MEN can relate to a time of feeling broken! The title is catchy af (thanks Issa! I LOVE YOU) and I hate to get so serious but now more than ever, self care is vital in creating a space for peace/ stability in our lives. What self care regimens did you practice when you had to heal yourself from a situation that broke you? Did you seek outside help from others? Anything you’d do differently? I’m really praying this episode does what needs to be done ! Let’s get deep in it!! Ugh, pun was NOT intended.

Thank you Beyonce and Jay Z for normalizing inconsistencies (infidelity) and rough patches in relationships! We still haven’t fully retired the fictitious expression “#relationshipgoals” but hopefully after this episode we do. Lol! What qualities concoct the “perfect” relationship to you? When do you decide to stay and work things out versus kick they ass to the curb? Is it possible to be in love with multiple people? Wow, I’m uncomfortable already. Chat soon

Apparently, my respect for the Kardashian/ Jenner gang takes precedent over my support for black women. Is it impossible to be Black & Proud but still like them? Better yet, what’s your beef??  Of course we’ll have to address the fine line between culture appreciation and culture appropriation while we’re here and thats fine. Also, are we still mad at Daniel Ceaser? Being black is hardT.

You know the type! They've been following your for years and have never liked a post or commented! They're usually the first to watch your stories too! I personally feel that SOCIAL media isn't the best place to pick to be an introvert... But what are your thoughts? Do you show up to a party and not speak? Ha! And I'm not seeking any validation from my followers (OR AM I??) but it does seem creepy! Boohhooohooo!  (Trying to keep this ghost idea in motion, work with me) Let's chat!

Agghhh!! I didn't give this topic the justice it deserved soooo REWWINNNNDDD!!!!

 

We pass judgement on others all the time! But how often do you self reflect in the capacity of being a "good friend?" What makes you a good friend? Think of a time when you were apart of a failed friendship, can you acknowlege any wrongdoings on your end? Spill it!! (AGAIN!!) Only with hopes of learning and growing of course! There's always room!