The world's changing, and so are the rules for moving through it. But did New York magazine err in its recent guide to 21st-century etiquette? Join us as we hash out canceling plans the day of, blasting out iMessages at 5am, responding "k" vs. "kk" vs. "ok," and… winking? Plus stick around after the bell rings for a spirited chat about fad diets.

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Thing 1: Ryan Davis

Thing 2: Mike Laws

Producer: Amanda Darrach

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Show notes:
The New Etiquette Rules, Story of the Week with Joel Stein
Do You Know How to Behave? Are You Sure? How to text, tip, ghost, host, and generally exist in polite society today. The Cut