The 4 O'Clock Pour

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Cuffing season is in full swing, but before you lock somebody down for the holidays, let’s talk about the red flags that could make someone lose their spot on the roster! From love bombing versus genuine excitement to inconsistent communication, questionable social media behavior, and the person who claims ALL their exes are crazy, we’re pouring the tea on what deserves a conversation and what deserves an immediate exit.

Are they genuinely excited about you, or moving too fast? Is following thirst traps disrespectful? And if someone is the villain in every breakup story, could YOU be next?

We’re breaking down the red flags, and debating which ones are dealbreakers.

Pour yourself a drink and join the conversation! 🍷

💬 We want to hear from you: What’s your BIGGEST dating red flag, and is it an automatic dealbreaker or something you’re willing to work through?

The Four O’Clock Pour — Real Talk. Real Pour. Real Us.

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Cuffing season is officially underway, and baby, it's DRAFT DAY! Everybody wants a starting position, but not everyone is qualified to make the team!

Join Chanel and Ki as they break down the dating draft. Who's giving franchise player energy, who's riding the bench, and who's getting cut before the season even starts? Are we drafting based on looks, potential, energy or what someone actually brings to the table?

Grab your glass, pour it up, and join us for this pour!

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It’s officially cuffing season… but what does that actually mean? We're setting the table for seasonal connections and questioning if they can actually turn into something real.

In this episode of The Four O’Clock Pour, Ki & Chanel are kicking off our Cuffing Season Series by breaking down what cuffing season is, when it starts, why people suddenly start looking for somebody to cozy up with. Throughout this series we are discussing all things from dating and situationships to commitment, intimacy, expectations, red flags, relationship boundaries, and what happens when cuffing season comes to an end.

Whether you’re single, dating, already boo’d up, or somewhere in that “we’re just vibing” stage, there’s going to be something in this series for you.

So grab your glass and get comfortable—Cuffing Season has officially begun at The Four O’Clock Pour.

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Friendships can get a little complicated when your friends start becoming friends with each other. 👀

This week on The Four O’Clock Pour, Ki and Chanel are pouring into the unspoken rules of shared friendships. If I introduced you to my friend, does that friendship still belong to me in some way? Can y’all hang out without me? Exchange numbers? Build your own friendship? And if me and her fall out… where exactly does that leave you?

We’re getting into loyalty, boundaries, jealousy, friendship “ownership,” and what happens when the friend you brought into the group starts getting a little too close to everybody else.

Because sometimes it’s not about being controlling—it’s about wondering when my friend became OUR friend. 🥂

Grab your glass because we have to ask: Is “she’s my friend, not yours” a valid boundary… or are we too grown to be claiming friends?

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Why can losing a friend hurt just as much—or sometimes even more—than losing a romantic partner?

This week, Ki and Chanel are pouring on friendship breakups, the expectations we place on our friends, and why friendship can come with a completely different kind of heartbreak. 

But do we expect more from our friends than we do from our partners? Are we quicker to forgive a romantic partner while holding our friends to a higher standard? 

Grab your drink, because this pour is about friendship, heartbreak, expectations, priorities, and the people we never thought we’d have to lose.

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The Every red flag isn’t a reason to walk away… but every red flag answers the question everyone avoids: “Is my friend the drama?” We’re pouring on toxic patterns, accountability and hard conversations. We all miss the signs until they become patterns. From jealousy disguised as jokes to honesty that hurts, we’re asking whether you’ve ignored the red flags or enabled them. Even in friendships loyalty shouldn’t come at the expense of your peace.

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Can you REALLY be friends with your ex or is there always a little unfinished business?

Ki and Chanel are on completely opposite sides of this one. Termination Alert! Your services are no longer needed vs Let's communicate clear boundaries and mutual respect. 

Relationships can be lengthy and friendships begin to form. Then comes the bigger question: What happens to everybody else after the breakup?

Breaking up isn't just about dividing the belongings we are doing custody battles over friends too. 

Grab your drink because this kind of breakup, you don't want to be a part of.

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What happens when “just friends” cross a line that friendship supposedly doesn’t cross?

This week, we’re pouring into the blurry space between friendship, attraction, curiosity, and sexual identity. Why can women experiment with their female friends and still be seen as “just exploring,” while men are often immediately labeled if they do the same? And once two friends cross that boundary, can the friendship ever really go back to normal?

With a male guest joining the conversation, we’re challenging the double standards from both sides. From catching feelings when it was only supposed to be curiosity, to staying friends with someone you’ve been intimate with, to deciding what your current partner deserves to know—we’re asking the uncomfortable questions.

Because maybe friends do do that…

But what happens to the friendship when they do?

Pour up. This one might have you questioning a few “just friends.”

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Some of y'all don't have friends. You have associates with seniority.

We throw the word "friend" around pretty casually, but what does it actually mean? This week, Ki and Chanel break down the difference between a friend, an associate, and somebody who's simply been around for a long time. 

How much effort should exist on both sides of a friendship? Does communication have to be consistent? Can someone consider you a friend when you only consider them an associate? And when does a friendship quietly turn into something less?

Then comes the real question: does history automatically equal friendship or are some people only still in our lives because of how long they've been there?

Grab your drink. It's time to figure out who's really a friend... and who might need to be moved to the associate section. 

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Friendship breakups don’t happen overnight—they build through silence, tension, resentment, and unanswered questions.

This week, Ki and Chanel sit down for a raw, unfiltered conversation about what went wrong, the moments that changed everything, and where they stand today. They revisit the turning points, share their individual perspectives, and confront the question they’ve both been avoiding: Can this friendship be repaired, or are they already just people with history?

As the friendship series begins, they open up about their most vulnerable chapter yet—without avoiding the hurt, the hard truths, or their own roles in the fallout.

Grab your drink. This pour gets real, honest, and uncomfortable.

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