Author Pearlie Martin speaks about the effects of unforgiveness. When God ask tells us to forgive its not a suggestion but his commandment. Unforgiveness holds us hostage and just as guilty of sin when we donot do what God has commanded. Unforgiveness is connected to pride and self rightousness because it keeps us from looking at ourselves and looking down on others for what they did. Pearlie Martin ask the question," If you cannot forgive them for what they said or did to you, can you forgive them for being imperfect just like you?"