We love telling ourselves that once we finally reach our goal, things will settle. More peace, more joy, more sleep. The arrival fallacy sells that fantasy hard, and we keep buying it, even though every past “arrival” has proved otherwise.

In this conversation, Kim and Pancho discuss what happens when we pin too much hope on a single accomplishment. Kim discusses how the arrival fallacy leads to burnout, causing us to hold our discomfort at arm’s length and convince ourselves that the next accomplishment will magically fix everything. Pancho discusses how shifting our focus from outcomes to process can be a more reliable means to sustainable peace and joy.