There is mental help, there is emotional help, and there is physical help. It all depends on the situation in the family or in the relationship. But the highest is the help that creates in a person a certain power through which he can act. Let's say you gave a person clothes, you fed him, you helped him do some work. All this is transitory. It is not permanent - that will not make a person self-sufficient. But if you teach him how to awaken his will by embarking on the spiritual path, show him what life can be, show how to live better... this will be the best help.