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The Chair You Won’t Sit In

Self-Worth · why you can’t rest, and the belief underneath it.

Episode description

You sit down, and within a minute you’re up again. You finally have the time, and you still can’t take it. If that’s you, this episode is about why, and it isn’t what you think.

Rest that won’t come is not a discipline problem. It’s a belief. Somewhere a long time ago you learned that your turn came last, that stopping wasn’t allowed until everyone else was handled. In this episode I tell the truth about my own version of it, the years I put my art last, the three shapes the belief took, and why my own art is on a break right now. Then I give you a way through, including two free downloads to do the work yourself.

What we get into

• Why “just rest more” never worked, and what’s actually running underneath.

• The three shapes of “I have to earn it”: a worth thing, a time thing, and a purpose thing.

• Why courses and workshops felt safe, and the free afternoon that never came.

• The honest part: why I separated my art from my business, and let it take a break.

• Hand-me-down thoughts, the ones you wear until you spot they don’t fit.

• You can’t control the first thought. You’re responsible for the second and the third.

• Your real listener questions, answered.

Chapter markers

0:00 The chair you keep standing up from

2:00 Why this is a meaning problem, not a discipline one

4:30 My going-last years, and the art table I walked past

8:00 The three shapes: worth, time, purpose

11:30 The honest part: why my own art is on a break

14:00 Hand-me-down thoughts, and the first vs. second thought

16:30 Your questions, answered

20:00 The practice, and where to start

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Free downloads from this episode

The Hand Me Down. A thought download that helps you sort what’s running through your head: fact or fiction, and handed to you or bought new. The first step to taking off a belief that was never yours.

→ Download The Hand Me Down

The Five-Minute Rest. A short practice for the exact moment you sit down and want to bolt. Keep it where you can see it.

→ Download The Five-Minute Rest

A line to sit with

You didn’t lose yourself. You just learned to go last.

Keep going

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Lynn

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