The Chris Geisler Podcast

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This conversation is about what that mistrust costs us, and what it takes to become a man other people can feel safe around.

Steve shares his path from a numb, drug and alcohol fuelled life selling real estate in Mexico to shadow work at the Osho resort in Pune, and why the men he now leads start every retreat by naming their judgments out loud. We go into humour as armour, the nice guy versus the dark masculine, what women's work actually asks of women, and what tantra really is beyond sex.

In this episode you'll learn:

- Why naming your judgment of another man disarms it, and how to do it

- How sarcasm and jokes contract a room, and how to repair it even a year later

- Why the core masculine wound is "I'm not good enough" and how separating behaviour from identity loosens it

- Why pushing sexuality down makes it come out sideways

Steve Shiva is a Masculine Embodiment and Truth Based Relating coach and holistic counsellor with a BSc in Psychology. He has walked the path of tantra since 2008, founded Notorious Hearts and Rites of Passage for Men, and is a cofounder of Temple Village in Ubud, Bali.

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STEVE

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/steve.shiva.official

Temple Village: https://www.templevillage.com

Notorious Hearts: https://www.notorioushearts.com

CHRIS

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CHAPTERS

00:00 Why Steve reversed his vasectomy

05:51 Chris names his judgments of Steve

08:36 Cult leaders and men's sexual integrity

12:32 Telling a man you're judging him

15:39 Mexico, numbness and shadowy sexuality

17:37 Breaking open at the Osho resort

22:28 Why this work has to happen in community

25:17 Ask five people what you can't see

27:12 Thirty people, one after another

30:49 Humour that closes people down

33:49 The core wound: I'm not good enough

36:25 Rewards, punishment and separating behaviour from person

40:26 Who actually walks into men's work

42:40 Why you can't send your partner to men's work

45:51 Anger, alcohol and old patterns

46:59 Men's longing for physical warmth

50:49 Nice guys, pleasers and the dark masculine

55:18 Me Too and sexuality coming out sideways

57:34 The darkness we're all capable of

59:50 What women's work really asks

1:06:17 Independence and devotion to something bigger

1:07:28 Building Temple Village in Bali

1:10:58 What tantra actually is

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4 days without sleep in Cambodia. A hospital bed, a diagnosis, and nine months of depression. Connor calls it the best thing that ever happened to him, and he's never told the full story until now.

Recorded at Wasing Estate post Medicine Festival, Connor shares what happened when heartbreak cracked his reality open, why the hardest part wasn't the episode but having his experience denied, and what it cost him in friendships. We then follow the thread to where it led: meeting his partner, the birth of his son Nalu, and his work now supporting men through the journey to fatherhood.

In this episode you'll learn:

Why Connor still uses the word psychosis, and what shifted when he saw it through a different lens

What it feels like when the people closest to you deny your experience, and how he came to own the harm it caused them

Why freedom isn't the absence of responsibility but the choice of it

====== CONNOR OAKAIAH =====

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WEBSITE ▶ https://www.journeytofatherhood.org/

====== CHRIS GEISLER ======

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====== SUPPORT ======

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Alex Mischka went from a chef's kitchen panic attack and a drug fuelled collapse to becoming one of the most direct voices teaching men about grief, sex and the parts of themselves they were taught to suppress.

In this conversation Alex traces his path from watching his father die of brain cancer through addiction, debt and a full collapse, into more than a decade of work in tantra, attachment theory, kink and men's embodiment. He and the host go deep into what it means to reclaim the "primal killer" inside a man without losing the heart, why grief has to be felt rather than managed, and what real repair looks like after a rupture, both in relationships and in his own recent mistakes.

In this episode you'll learn…

The difference between karmic chemistry and sustainable partnership

How to repair conflict without using sex to bypass it

====== ALEX MISCHKA =====

IG ▶ https://www.instagram.com/alex_mischka/WEBSITE ▶ https://alexmischka.com/

====== CHRIS GEISLER ======

WEBSITE ▶ thechrisgeisler.comMENS WORK ▶ www.menofearth.co.ukCOACHING ▶ https://bit.ly/4g17ui6MENS COMMUNITY ▶ www.menofearth.co.uk/innercircle

====== SUPPORT ======

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BC Serna spent 18 years figuring out that most men aren't hiding from the world — they're hiding from a little boy they tried to kill off years ago.

In this conversation, BC Serna — coach, speaker, and founder of Traveling Good — opens up about growing up feeling like he "missed a meeting on how to be human," a two-decade spiritual journey that took him through 150+ host families across the globe, and what fatherhood has exposed in him that nothing else could. We get into purpose, prayer, why powerful women trigger insecure men, and what it actually takes to build something from zero.

====== BC =====

IG ▶ https://www.instagram.com/bc_serna/WEBSITE ▶ https://www.bcserna.com/

====== CHRIS GEISLER ======

WEBSITE ▶ thechrisgeisler.comMENS WORK ▶ www.menofearth.co.ukCOACHING ▶ https://bit.ly/4g17ui6 MENS COMMUNITY ▶ www.menofearth.co.uk/innercircle

====== SUPPORT ======

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I sit down with Alex Lehmann for a grounded conversation on men’s work, healing, grief, embodiment, and relational leadership. Alex shares his journey from anxiety, shame, and social fear into deeper self awareness through meditation, somatic work, breathwork, and podcasting. Together they explore identity, masculine conditioning, nervous system regulation, collapse, authenticity, and what men most need today. The episode also touches on healing in relationship, integrity, and creating meaningful spaces for transformation.

Key topics discussed

Meditation as an entry point into self awareness

Anxiety, shame, addiction, and coping strategies

Grief as a missing part of modern culture

Healing in relationship and men’s circles

Collapse, nervous system states, and masculine conditioning

Integrity, wholeness, and authentic self expression

How men can work safely with anger, fear, and shame

When healing becomes over analysis

====== Alex Lehmann =====

IG ▶ https://www.instagram.com/alexlehmann_/

YT ▶ https://www.youtube.com/@heartofmanpodcast/

WEBSITE ▶ https://www.alexlehmann.co/

====== CHRIS GEISLER ======

WEBSITE ▶ thechrisgeisler.com

MENS WORK ▶ www.menofearth.co.uk

COACHING ▶ www.menofearth.co.uk/coaching

MENS COMMUNITY ▶ www.menofearth.co.uk/innercircle

====== SUPPORT ======
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00:00 Intro & welcome04:09 Finding connection in a disconnected world10:52 The "Knight" archetype and breaking free of conditioning12:58 Questioning identity: what serves you vs. what limits you16:44 How meditation became his first access point inward20:38 What anxiety and depression actually looked like day to day24:55 The internal narratives: "I'm not man enough," "I'm a coward"26:22 From self-criticism to self-compassion28:04 Chris's own story: self-destruction and the mirror of circumstance30:03 Awareness → acceptance → action: the role of embodiment & FBR35:02 Grief in a "griefless" culture38:17 Healing in relationship vs. healing alone41:54 The masculine edge of collapse and surrender47:46 Shadow work, opposites, and returning to balance50:01 What men need most right now: integration & wholeness58:39 How to explore anger, fear, and resentment without causing harm1:03:05 Breathwork as a tool: from box breathing to deep nervous system work1:11:03 Past hurt, future fear, and not getting stuck in the past1:14:25 The three paths: therapeutic, embodiment, and spiritual realisation1:20:39 Atlas's podcast journey: Heart of Man and the power of bold asks1:28:48 Favourite guests and episodes1:31:27 Closing thoughts: the power of questions1:32:52 Where to find Atlas / Alex Lehmann

Joby Boughey is the founder of the Pure Breathwork Academy, where he trains people to become certified breathwork facilitators through a practical method that combines breathwork, fascia release, and nervous system training.

His work helps people reduce stress, release stored tension, and build a stronger connection with their body — creating real, lasting change both physically and mentally.

After overcoming near-death experiences and years of personal challenges, Joby now delivers engaging, high-impact sessions and trainings designed to help people feel better, move better, and perform at a higher level in everyday life.

He is the author of Pure Breathwork: A Breath Journey to Liberation, with his second book, I AM The WAY, coming soon.

Whether you’re looking to improve your own wellbeing or train to help others, Joby’s approach is simple: Breathe. Move. Flow

====== Pure Breath =====

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WEBSITE ▶ http://purebreathwork.org/

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JOIN THE PURE COMMUNITY ▶ https://tinyurl.com/skoolpureacademy

====== CHRIS GEISLER ======

WEBSITE ▶ thechrisgeisler.com

MENS WORK ▶ www.menofearth.co.uk

COACHING ▶ www.menofearth.co.uk/coaching

MENS COMMUNITY ▶ www.menofearth.co.uk/innercircle

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In this episode, I sit down with Jeddy Azuma for a grounded conversation on men’s work, integrity, initiation, and the role of nature in modern life. We explore rites of passage, the importance of community and embodied mentorship, parenting, activism, and the tension between inner work and cultural responsibility. It is a thoughtful conversation on masculinity, belonging, and what it takes to live with authenticity, courage, and deeper connection in today’s world.

====== JEDDY ****======

IG ▶ https://www.instagram.com/jeddyazuma/

WEBSITE ▶ https://risingman.org/

YOUTUBE ▶ https://www.youtube.com/@TheRisingManMovement

====== CHRIS GEISLER ======

WEBSITE ▶ thechrisgeisler.com

MENS Community ▶ https://bit.ly/4gIG6Vw

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Sven Loss is a relationship and transformation coach dedicated to helping people build healthier relationships with themselves and others. After facing his own struggles with self worth, confidence, and unhealthy relationship patterns, Sven began a deep personal journey of inner work, learning from coaches, therapists, and leading practitioners. Today he guides clients through emotional healing, self awareness, and breaking unconscious patterns so they can experience authentic connection, mental freedom, and more fulfilling relationships.

====== SVEN LOSS =====

IG ▶ https://www.instagram.com/sven_loss/

WEBSITE ▶ https://svenloss.com/

====== CHRIS GEISLER ======

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0:00 - Intro00:16 - Why Is Self Worth Overlooked?03:39 - How Long Do You Need To Be In A Relationship Before You Know It’s Not Right?05:09 - What Is Chemistry In Relationship?08:21 - Why We Attract The Same Unhealthy Patterns12:26 - What To Do If You Are Stressed In Relationship18:56 - How To Be More Present To What Is?21:46 - Seth’s Backstory25:43 - Not Feeling Enough And What Happens In Relationship31:57 - Healing The Nice Guy41:19 - Inner Child Healing48:10 - How Do You Create Freedom?53:12 - Those Who Can’t Feel Pain, Can’t Love55:28 - Finding Faults And Avoidant Tendencies59:48 - Being Loved Beyond Belief Heals Everything

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Ben is an activist, advocate, speaker, host, presenter, facilitator, trainer and model. As the Head of Facilitation and Training at Beyond Equality, he focuses on deconstructing and reconstructing masculinities with men and boys. Ben also works as a freelance Diversity and Inclusion Consultant with a focus on race and gender.

His focus is on making important conversations accessible for young people and adults from all walks of life and he is currently working on his first book.

Topics / Themes We Explore

Identity Crisis Men & Boys - Economic & Cultural Shifts

How do we prevent further gender division at young ages.

Cultivating more empathy, self-esteem & compassion as a society

Did You Know..

• In 2023, about 1 in 5 children and young people aged 8 to 25 years had a probable mental disorder.
• One in four UK males between 19-29 think it’s harder to be a man than a woman.
• 30% of Gen Z surveyed think it’ll be harder to be a man than a woman in 20 years’ time
• And of that group, 19% think it’ll be much harder to be a Man

====== BEN HURST =====

IG ▶ https://www.instagram.com/therealbenhurst/WEBSITE ▶ https://www.therealbenhurst.com/

Beyond Equality ▶ https://www.beyondequality.org/

TED TALK ▶ ⁠https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3dp08bAUwi8⁠

====== CHRIS GEISLER ======

WEBSITE ▶ thechrisgeisler.comMENS WORK ▶ www.menofearth.co.uk

COACHING ▶ www.menofearth.co.uk/coachingMENS COMMUNITY ▶ www.menofearth.co.uk/innercircle

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In this conversation, I’m joined by the founder of Men’s Circle, a leading international community supporting men’s wellbeing, connection, and conscious leadership.

His work emerged from lived experience: loneliness in a crowded city, the loss of close friends to suicide, and a clear recognition that real change begins within. What started in 2020 as a small men’s circle in a London park has since grown into a global movement, built on creating safe, well-held spaces where men can speak honestly and be truly seen.

Over the years, he has helped shape Men’s Circle into a strong ecosystem for men’s mental, emotional, and relational health, working alongside experienced facilitators and clinicians to ensure depth and integrity in the work.

Today, Men’s Circle operates as The Men’s Wellness Club, offering:

• Circles – peer-mentoring spaces
• Training – facilitation and leadership development
• Socials – because strong friendships matter

This episode explores what becomes possible when men take responsibility, do the inner work, and grow together.

====== PASCO =====

IG ▶ https://www.instagram.com/beingpasco/WEBSITE ▶ https://www.menscircle.club/

====== CHRIS GEISLER ======

WEBSITE ▶ thechrisgeisler.com

MENS WORK ▶ www.menofearth.co.uk

COACHING ▶ www.menofearth.co.uk/coaching

MENS COMMUNITY ▶ www.menofearth.co.uk/innercircle

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