Christian Bachelorette Ep. 2 – Dating Multiple People: Integrity, Healing, and Keeping Hope AliveWelcome back to episode two of Christian Bachelorette, hosted by Jayme Vainer. In this episode, Jayme shares how she came to embrace dating multiple people after years of doing things her way—an approach that led to repeated heartbreak. As someone who feared rejection and struggled with people-pleasing, the idea initially felt impossible.After moving to California at 21, Jayme discovered Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend through Monday Night Solutions and became deeply impacted by Christian psychology. She read How to Get a Date Worth Keeping but initially rejected its encouragement to date multiple people because she didn’t want to reject anyone—or be rejected. Later, while helping plan the wedding of Heart of Dating founders Kate and Jade Tomlin, Jayme joined their School of Dating mentorship and heard the same principles again. This time, after realizing her approach wasn’t working, she surrendered and asked God what to do.Jayme explains that dating multiple people isn’t for everyone, but it was a helpful method for her anxious attachment style and tendency to overcommit too quickly. In October 2022, she partnered with the Lord by getting on two dating apps, flirting on social media, attending church and community events, and asking for setups—moving from a “complete drought” of catfishing and ghosting to dating 15 men in one month.She closes with practical guidance on how to do this with integrity—being honest, clear, and kind, and communicating early that she isn’t committing or kissing for two to three months. The episode ends with a hopeful reminder from Psalm 37 and a preview that the next episode will focus on anxious attachment.

Christian Bachelorette Ep. 1 – The Unexpected Journey: Keeping Hope Alive in Dating

Welcome to episode one of Christian Bachelorette, hosted by Jayme Vainer (@thechristianbachelorette). In this faith-filled premiere, Jayme introduces the heart behind the podcast and shares her unexpected dating journey—told for God’s glory, with honesty, hope, and a little humor.

She opens with Psalm 37:7 (Passion Translation), encouraging listeners to quiet their hearts, pray, and keep hope alive while waiting on God. Through a high school cross-country story about an intense, unannounced training day, Jayme connects the lesson of being present to her own dating experience. She reveals that she dated 77 men in three years and reminds listeners that God meets us in the unexpected too.

The episode closes with a preview of the next topic: dating multiple people.

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Introduction to what the Christian Bachelorette is