The Complacent Zone – Warrior Mind Podcast #612

How To Breakout Of Your Complacent Zone

Why Change Is Hard and How to Fix It

When we think about getting new results, whether it’s in the area of health, fitness, athletics, sales or relationships, what we’re looking for is….  

Change!

Change from our current state to more powerful and fulfilling one.

So…What is Change?

Change is something that moves us out of our comfort (complacent) zone.

Let me ask you, how many times have you set out to create change only to get “stuck” or to backslide? 

Why this happened is because you slammed up against your line of mental resistance.

What is Mental Resistance?

It is the consciousness or unconscious rejection to change.

The inherent problem with setting out to get new result, i.e. goal setting is how it relates to the way the brain works. Recent neuroscience research shows the brain works in a protective way, that is, it’s resistant to change.

Therefore, any goals that require substantial behavioral change or thinking-pattern change will automatically be resisted. The brain is wired to seek rewards and avoid pain or discomfort, including fear and change is perceived as a discomfort by the brain and mind.

When fear or failure creeps into the mind of the goal setter it commences a de-motivator with a desire to return to known, comfortable behavior and thought patterns.

Why Change is So Hard

Change is constant and will always be present in our lives, either we cause it or we’re the effect of it.

In fact, the person you are when you start reading this article is different from the person you are after reading it—that is how quickly we change.

Medical research has shown that in one year the physical makeup of your body changes 99% and only takes four years to become a completely new you. That means part of us changes every single moment.

The big question is: Why is change so hard for us?

I believe it has to do with our inability to manage all the components of change.

The field of neuroscience reveals some interesting facts about how we deal with change in our bodies and the emotional impact it has on us. Let me share some interesting facts to create awareness as to why change can be so hard.

As you read, I encourage you to read it through the perspective of a behavior you have struggled to change: people pleasing, health and fitness, relationships, getting angry and shouting at people, putting yourself down, etc.

Our behaviors become addictions, and addictions are hard to change.

An addictive behavior starts with a belief that drives the habit. Saying to yourself that people love you when you do what they want supports the belief that you are not worthy. This type of inner voice drives the oft-destructive habit of people pleasing, a specific behavior linked directly to our emotions.

To change these behaviors seems easy on the surface.

You think, “If I allow others to put me down while putting themselves first and keep accepting this, then I am willfully not standing up for myself.”

The easiest way to change this is to say ‘no’ and stand up for yourself, right?

If only it were that easy.

Unfortunately, our bodies are working against change, and here is what is happening:

Our emotions drive our behaviors,