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The Confusing Thing About Anger


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In this Speak Easy Doctors episode, Dr. D and Dr. J extend their conversations around “love languages” by testing a pop-psych spinoff: the five “anger languages” which include righteousness, indignation, retribution, distraction, and justification. Using personal history and a communication lens, they question whether these are truly “anger” or broader reaction styles triggered by unmet needs. By the end, the hosts agree on a few anchors: anger is complex, often effective in the short term but costly over time; compassion can be equally effective but demands more skill and patience; and body awareness is a powerful early warning system. They also spar (playfully) over morality highlighting Dr. D’s “moral fluidity” vs. Dr. J’s rule-bound comfort—illustrating how definitions shape what we call “anger” in the first place. Stay for the real-talk takeaways: spot what’s under your “anger,” use DBT Wise Mind to pause before you hit send, and try compassion for long-game wins. Listen now.

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Speak Easy DoctorsBy DeAnne Canieso, PhD & James Perez, PhD