In this raw and deeply personal episode, Erika opens up about the stories we believe about ourselves that aren't actually true. Sharing her experience as a sexual abuse survivor within her own family, the pain of her father leaving, and the years of unworthiness that followed, she introduces the first part of the Blow Your Mind framework: identity. Because you cannot build the life you want from the identity of the life you survived. Erika unpacks how identity is shaped by the experiences we've lived through, why affirmations on sticky notes don't work, and what it actually takes to decide who you're becoming. From naming the false stories you've been carrying to making real identity shifts that build self-trust, this episode is an invitation to stop surviving as someone else's version of you and start choosing yourself on purpose.

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00:00 Welcome to Blow Your Mind 

00:42 My story

02:19 Introducing the identity framework 

03:30 The stories that shaped my unworthiness 

04:27 When your own dad doesn't choose you 

05:42 The stories you didn't consciously choose 

06:34 Why survival identity has a ceiling

07:31 How to actually shift your identity 

09:22 The morning ritual that changed everything 

11:14 You can't build a new life from a survived identity 

12:28 Mind blown moment, you get to decide