The Cost of Choosing You: Boundaries, Faith, and Self-Love

The host, Dr. T Lo, shares how starting therapy and choosing herself felt like everything was falling apart—calls stopped, invitations slowed, and she questioned if something was wrong—but she later recognized these as side effects of stopping self-abandonment, setting boundaries, and releasing people and patterns that no longer served her. She explains that choosing yourself has a cost (comfort, approval, and old versions of you) but brings freedom, clarity, and confidence. Grounded in faith, she describes learning that God chose her first and that His love isn’t tied to performance, then learning to love all parts of herself without shame. Through therapy journaling, scripture, and reframing behaviors like overthinking as protective responses to wounds, she aligned her self-view with God’s, stopped shrinking, released mediocre relationships, and encouraged listeners to keep trusting the process.

00:00 Therapy Aftershock

01:16 Cost of Choosing You

02:24 Aha Moment Self Love

04:03 God Chose You First

06:43 Love All of You

09:06 Align With Gods View

13:15 Boundaries And Breakthroughs

15:11 When It Feels Lonely

16:03 Keep Going Closing

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