“There are three things that are necessary ingredients for healing,” my therapist said recently. “Safety, safety, and safety.”

Ever since then, I’ve been reflecting on what he said and I think he’s definitely on to something important. In therapy sessions since, I’ve been contemplating how I might have gotten some things slightly wrong in this regard in the past. And those mistakes? Well… I think they may be rooted in the trauma and social conditioning of my past. Read mpre...