'Reclaiming Your Self-Worth in Dance'

How much of your happiness as a dancer depends on your partner’s approval?

In this episode, Gui Prada and I tackle the psychological traps of seeking external validation and how to stay grounded when faced with criticism.

The Power Imbalance Trap

We often unknowingly give away our power to partners we perceive as "better" or "more senior." This creates a damaging cycle:

• The Approval Loop: Constantly looking for smiles or nods to feel "worthy" leads to anxiety and mechanical dancing.

• The Silent Tear-Down: I share how a student lost sight of years of progress simply because a training partner was overly critical.

• Rewriting the Narrative: Gui discusses his own process of redefining success—realizing that a lack of "wow moments" in a video doesn't define his value as a teacher.

Reclaiming Your Power

True mastery starts with your mindset outside the studio.

• Focus on Feeling, Not Blame: Instead of saying, "You did this wrong," try, "I want to feel more of this." Reframe criticism as an invitation to explore a shared direction.

• The 100/100 Rule: A partnership isn't 50/50. It’s two people bringing 100% of their unique selves to build a new, fused 100%.

• Internal Pillars: No one can "delete" the progress stored in your body. Build your self-worth on your own achievements, not on festival posters or social media likes.

How do you stay confident when a dance doesn't go as planned?

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