In this candid chat, Dr. D and Dr. J revisit Gary Chapman’s five love languages—words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, and physical touch—then flip the script to examine the “dark side.” Through personal stories (from grocery runs and mountain getaways to orchids and the Northern Lights), they explore how childhood, culture, religion, and generational norms shape what we crave and how we give love—and how those patterns can become blind spots that fuel miscommunication.