Every tiny "yes" we say when we mean "no" is a drop in our resentment bucket, creating a heavy weight that contributes to burnout more than we realize. These "dirty yeses" might look like generosity on the outside but are actually moments of self-abandonment that leave us feeling resentful and exhausted.

• Small acts of saying yes when you mean no accumulate over time
• Dirty yeses create feelings of resentment, exhaustion and scorekeeping
• People pleasers often feel they have no choice but to keep the peace
• Micro-moments of self-abandonment can contribute more to burnout than major projects
• Many of us were never taught how to say no in a clean way
• A dirty yes feels physically uncomfortable—like "someone has poured molasses all over you"
• Obligation-based attendance means you're mentally checked out before you arrive
• There are fewer truly obligatory commitments than we believe

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