Key Points, Top Takeaways and Memorable Quotes - 

“I realized that I could be really helpful.” 3:23

“I think marriage is fantastic.  I’m just opposed to staying in a bad marriage.” 6:53

“We don’t have a divorce problem.  We have a marriage problem.” 7:39

Studies have shown that staying together for the children, if it’s a bad marriage, is a bad idea, it’s not good for the kids.” 13:56

“Partners will overlook infidelity so long as they can rebuild trust, respect, and commitment.” 17:18

“Contempt is the biggest destroyer of relationships.” 21:00

“20 minutes is the length of time that most humans need to regroup.” 22:35

“If you need to go to bed with this unresolved, agree to touch your feet.” - Michelle @ 23:43

“It’s extremely important to see what people do rather than what they say.” 26:55

“Men achieve intimacy through sex.” 29:31

“Getting in touch with your femininity and viewing it not as giving, but receiving, is incredibly empowering.” 35:53

“There’s no better form of self-care than good sex.  It’s really a wonderful gift that a couple can share with each other.” 36:21

“In order for there to be attraction, there has to be distance.” 37:40 

“I think it’s a good idea to get ready separately.” - Michelle @ 39:42

“The seduction starts the minute you stop having sex the last time.” - Michelle quoting Esther Perel @ 40:36

“If you are having sex to connect, then don’t hop out of bed right away when you’re done, like stay there and cuddle because that’s a really great time to connect.” -Michelle @ 42:36

Guest Bio - Ann Grant is an attorney, author, entrepreneur, a law professor—and—host of Divorce Hacker.  

Ann did not aspire to be a divorce attorney – in a prior lifetime, she was a corporate litigator, married to a corporate litigator with three children.  But when her seemingly perfect 16 year marriage ended and she experienced a very high conflict divorce, she created a support group for women contemplating divorce.  

It was from this group that Ann was asked to represent one of the women in her divorce—combining the legal skills she had acquired during her years as an experienced litigator with her personal experience as a mother—she was extremely effective-- both in and out of the courtroom.  This experience was the impetus for Ann’s bestselling book, The Divorce Hacker’s Guide to Untying the Knot, which provides legal, financial, and psychological expertise to help the reader skillfully prepare and protect themself as they navigate the modern divorce—proactively, efficiently, resiliently.  

The rest is history--Manhattan Beach Family Law—founded by Ann-- has grown exponentially and has offices in Manhattan Beach, Brentwood and Newport Beach with the viewers of Divorce Hacker Ann is excited to share with viewers of Divorce Hacker what she’s learned over the years representing hundreds of individuals. 

Show Notes - 

0:00 - Divorce Hacker Intro

0:34 - Introducing The Divorce Hacker, Ann Grant

1:41 - Why Did You Become An Attorney?

3:54 - The Collaborative Process

6:05 - What’s Your View on Marriage Now?

10:40 - Concept of the Wed-Lease

12:23 - Thoughts on Staying Together for the Kids

16:37 - What’s the Most Common Reason for Divorce?

19:34 - The Gottman Method

24:35 - What are the Components of A Healthy Marriage? 

28:42 - Thoughts on Sexless Marriages

36:44 - What Advice Do You Have for Men When it Comes to Sex?

43:40 - What is the Best Way to Prepare for Divorce?

45:13 - Don’t Do These Things After the Date of Separation

47:57 - Pay Attention to the Red Flags Before Marriage

50:41 - Thank Yous & Divorce Hacker Closing

Links & Where to Find Ann - 

MB Family Law - https://www.mbfamilylawyers.com/

Linkedin - https://www.linkedin.com/in/anngrantmbfl/

IG - @divorcehacker 

The Divorce Hacker Youtube