Do you find yourself bracing for disappointment, even when life seems to go well? In this episode, Kimberly explores why we often expect the worst, even when we’re hoping for the best. She shares her personal story of how old beliefs and past disappointments can distort what’s happening right now.

With practical steps to pause, reflect, and separate past fears from present truth, Kimberly guides you toward healing emotional triggers and learning to trust yourself again.

This episode is for anyone who’s ready to stop letting old fears write new stories.

Show Notes:

• Free 5-Day Reset: “Come Back to Yourself” – Sign up here to reconnect with your truth.
• Mentioned Book: “Ask and It Is Given” by Esther & Jerry Hicks.
• Follow “The Dope Black Chick Podcast” and leave a review.

Until next time, be gentle with yourself, and keep coming back to yourself.

How do you know if the life you're chasing is actually the life you want?

If you've been searching for your purpose, trying to find clarity, wondering what you really want in life, or working toward intentional living, this episode is for you.

In this episode of The Dope Black Chick Podcast, Kimberly A. Spidle explores one of the most important questions you'll ever ask yourself:

Why do you want what you want?

Sometimes we think we want more money.

A promotion.

A relationship.

A business.

A new beginning.

But often, those aren't the real desires.

They're simply the vehicle for something much deeper.

Inspired by the teachings of Ask and It Is Given, Kimberly unpacks how discovering the thing beneath the thing can transform the way you make decisions, pursue goals, and create a life that feels aligned instead of performative.

✔️ How to discover what you really want in life

✔️ Why finding your purpose starts with understanding your true desires

✔️ The hidden emotions driving your biggest goals

✔️ How intentional living creates greater peace and fulfillment

✔️ Why chasing success doesn't always create happiness

✔️ The difference between external achievement and internal alignment

✔️ How self-awareness changes the way you make decisions

This episode is perfect if you're searching for:

• finding your purpose

• how to find your passion
• intentional living
• personal growth
• self-discovery
• creating a life you love
• finding yourself again
• mindset shifts
• emotional healing
• purpose-driven living
• Ask and It Is Given
• Abraham Hicks
• life alignment
• Black women personal development

Resources Mentioned:📖 Ask and It Is Given by Esther & Jerry Hicks

If today's conversation resonated with you, download my free Come Back to Yourself: 5-Day Reset and begin reconnecting with who you are—one intentional step at a time.

https://bit.ly/comebacktoyourself5

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In this episode, Kimberly A. Spidle shares her heartfelt journey of navigating loss, grief, and the importance of embracing pauses in life and business. She offers practical insights on how to trust the process, remain consistent through seasons of change, and come back stronger.

Key Topics:

• The significance of understanding life's seasons and natural rhythms
• Rethinking traditional notions of consistency and pauses
• The power of allowing and trusting in life's transition processes
• How grief and reflection foster creativity and growth
• Practical tools: the Come Back to Yourself five-day reset
• The importance of self-compassion during challenging seasons
• How to return to yourself without guilt or shame
• The role of faith, energy, and trust in navigating transitions
• Insights from the book Ask and It Is Given by Esther and Jerry Hicks
• Stories of support, love, and resilience within family and business

Timestamps:00:00 - Introduction: Kimberly shares her recent life updates and why she paused
02:11 - Embracing peace in difficult times and shifting perspectives on consistency
03:36 - The misconception of constant productivity and natural seasons of growth
06:29 - Redefining consistency: trees, tides, and heartbeat as examples of rhythm
08:25 - The importance of taking pauses without guilt or shame
09:53 - Recognizing that coming back is part of true consistency
11:14 - Insights from Ask and It Is Given on grief, transition, and allowing
12:43 - The power of allowing vs. forcing in life's transitions
14:36 - Trusting the process: energy, transition, and your place in life’s rhythm
16:31 - When you realize you’re exactly where you’re supposed to be
17:29 - The creative power of grief, reflection, and silence
18:38 - Movie recommendation: Everything Everywhere All at Once
20:47 - Invitation to the Come Back to Yourself five-day reset
21:15 - Encouragement: You can always return, and consistency is understanding who you are
22:27 - Final thoughts: Be gentle with yourself and honor your season of pause
23:02 - Closing words: Coming back to yourself is always worth it

Resources & Links:

• Ask and It Is Given by Esther and Jerry Hicks⁠

• ⁠Come Back to Yourself Five-Day Reset⁠
• ⁠Celebration Spiritual Center⁠

Connect with Kimberly:

• Instagram⁠

• ⁠Website⁠

What happens when you build a life that looks like everything — and still lose yourself inside it? In Episode 710, Kimberly sits down with Myesha Chaney, author of the memoir Honest, for a raw and grounded conversation about identity loss in marriage, the quiet cost of silence, and what it takes to finally tell yourself the truth. This one is for every woman who has been performing her life instead of living it.

SHOW NOTES:

In this conversation we talk about:

• What it feels like to lose an identity you built your whole life around
• The moment she realized who she had been was no longer who she was
• What nobody tells you about rebuilding after everything falls apart
• What silence actually costs us — and what telling the truth can set free

This episode is for the woman who has been performing okay. The one who built the right life and still feels like something is missing. The one who is ready to come home to herself.

Links mentioned in this episode:

• Myesha Chaney's memoir "Honest" → https://amzn.to/4upMjfD
• Myesha's website → https://www.myeshachaney.com/
• Myesha's Instagram → @myeshachaney
• Join the Come Back to Yourself Reset (FREE 5-day email reset) → bit.ly/comebacktoyourself5
• The Becoming Circle → https://ihearthatgirl.com/becoming-circle-waitlist
• The Dope Black Chick on Instagram → @thedopeblackchick

Episode Tags: mental health, identity, Black women, healing, divorce, rebuilding, memoir, faith, becoming, self-discovery

This Mental Health Awareness Month, we're not recounting the weight.

You already know the weight.

This episode is about what becomes possible when you heal.

Because here's what I've come to understand — a Black woman who knows she is enough, who is no longer available to shrink, perform, or seek validation from a world that was never going to give it anyway — that woman is dangerous. In the best possible way.

In this episode, we're having the conversation that goes deeper than survival. We're talking about healing as reclamation. As power. As the most radical thing a Black woman can do in a world that profits from her exhaustion.

I'm also sharing something personal — a realization that honestly rearranged me. That the self-sufficiency I once saw as a flaw was actually the fullest expression of who I am. That I was never lacking anything. I just hadn't healed enough yet to trust what was already inside me.

When that shifts — when you stop seeking from a place of lack and start attracting from a place of overflow — everything changes.

This episode is for the woman who is tired of being strong for everyone else. The one who has been seeking something she couldn't name. The one who is ready to stop managing her power and start moving in it.

You were never the problem. You were always the power.

What we cover in this episode:

• Why the world has a vested interest in Black women staying exhausted
• How healing gives you back the truth about who you always were
• Why self-sufficiency isn't loneliness — it's wholeness
• The shift from seeking to attracting — and what changes when you make it
• What it means to be so rooted in yourself that nothing external can shake it

This episode is for you if:You're done surviving and ready to reclaim. You've been performing strength for so long you've forgotten what it feels like to just be. Or you're on the other side of your healing and finally starting to understand what it unlocked.

Ready to go deeper? The Becoming Circle membership is where women doing this exact work come together — not to be fixed, but to be fully seen and fully unleashed.

Click HERE.

Connect with Kimberly:www.thedopeblackchick.com

IG: @thedopeblackchick

Email: [email protected]

This is a Rewind. And it's intentional.

Episode 61 — "Bruised But Not Broken" — was first released in January 2020. But the revelation at the center of it doesn't have an expiration date. In this episode, Isis shares a word she received from the Creator: Nothing I've ever made has broken. Not bent. Not damaged. Broken.

In honor of Mental Health Awareness Month, we're bringing this one back — because some truths need to be heard more than once. If you're in the middle of a hard season right now, this episode is for you.

New to the show? This is a great place to start.

🔗 Ready to do the work?The Becoming Circle is a membership community for women navigating identity, healing, and becoming. This is your safe space to just be: https://ihearthatgirl.com/becoming-circle-waitlist/

You did everything right. You built the career. You earned the title. You showed up, performed, and proved yourself — over and over again.

And then one day, the structure was gone. Maybe you left. Maybe they left you. Maybe it happened so gradually you didn't notice until the silence hit.

And in that silence came the question nobody warned you about:

Who are you when the title is gone?

In this episode, we're sitting with the identity loss that follows a corporate exit — the grief that doesn't make sense, the disorientation of losing a structure that was quietly holding your sense of self together, and the deeper truth underneath all of it.

Because here's what I've come to understand: proving is what we do when we don't fully believe what God said about us. Corporate gave us a stage. A way to earn, perform, and demonstrate our worth. But you can spend an entire career proving something you were already given.

And when the stage disappears? You find out real fast whether your identity was built on something solid — or something that could be taken away with a reorg.

This episode also gets honest about the tension between the comfortable life and the called life — because a lot of us built something good and still felt the pull of something more aligned. Something that fit the actual us, not the version we performed for twenty years.

The becoming that follows an exit isn't a crisis. It's an invitation. And this conversation is for every woman in that in-between — whether you just walked out, got let go, or you're still in it and already unraveling on the inside.

You are not behind. You are not broken. You are becoming.

What we cover in this episode:

• Why identity loss after a corporate exit hits harder than anyone warns you
• What proving really reveals about what we believe about ourselves
• The difference between the comfortable life and the called life — and the grief of choosing between them
• Why the unraveling isn't the problem — it's the portal
• How becoming is an arrival, not a crisis

This episode is for you if:You've recently left corporate — or been let go — and you're still trying to figure out who you are without the title. Or you're still in it, and something inside you is already shifting.

Connect with Kimberly and the Dope Black Chick community:Becoming Membership: https://ihearthatgirl.com/becoming-circle-waitlist/

Instagram: @thedopeblackchick

The permission slip you've been waiting for? Nobody's bringing it to you. And this episode is about why.

If you already know what you need to do — let go, rest, stop holding everything together — but you still can't make yourself do it, this isn't about information. It's about identity. You've been the strong one for so long that stopping feels like a betrayal. Of yourself. Of everyone counting on you.

In this episode, we get honest about the gap between knowing and doing. We talk about how strength becomes a cage, why we've been conditioned to wait for outside permission, and what it actually looks like to surrender — not as a collapse, but as a choice.

If you've been carrying something you were never meant to carry alone, this one is for you.

In this episode of The Dope Black Chick Podcast, I’m getting honest about something many of us are feeling but rarely say out loud: the exhaustion of performative living.

For years we’ve been told to optimize everything.

Optimize your content.
Optimize your brand.
Optimize your life.

But somewhere along the way… life started to feel like a performance.

As a strategist and storyteller, I understand the value of intention and planning. But lately I’ve been asking a deeper question:

What happens when strategy replaces authenticity?

What happens when you stop living… and start performing?

This conversation explores:

• The pressure to perform in the age of algorithms
• How social media turned self-expression into optimization
• Why even strategic people get tired of strategizing
• The difference between authentic living and performative culture
• Returning to the joy of creating, sharing, and connecting

This episode is a reset.

Not a rejection of strategy — but a reminder that your life is not a marketing plan.

Sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is stop performing and start living.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re curating your life instead of experiencing it… this conversation is for you.

In this episode of the Dope Black Chick podcast, Kimberly speaks with Karimah Westbrook about her transition from the CW's All-American to her new project, Dream House. They discuss the emotional journey of closing one chapter and opening another, the importance of creative control, and the challenges of storytelling in a saturated industry. Karimah shares her insights on navigating fear and uncertainty, the significance of creating one's own opportunities, and the power of storytelling as a means of empowerment. The conversation emphasizes growth, evolution, and the courage to embrace new paths.