Breakups are messy, messy business. And sometimes, the hardest part isn’t the heartbreak, it’s the emotional hangover that lingers long after the door has closed. That “if only” moment keeps creeping in: “If only he wasn’t a gaslighter… a manipulator… maybe even a narcissist…”

Here’s the hard truth: the most insidious behavior is often the one no one else can see. It leaves you questioning yourself, doubting your intuition, and wondering why didn’t I see the red flags sooner?

We all ask ourselves:

Practical Tips for Moving On

When you’re stuck in the “what ifs” and “could’ve been,” try this: write a letter to yourself as if you were your own best friend. Tell her:

Walking Away Is Badass

Let’s get real: walking away can be unapologetic… even a little sexy. Leaving isn’t a failure, it’s proof that you knew your worth.

A man will never grow up if you keep justifying his messed-up behavior. You decided to retire from the relationship, girlfriend, so stop entertaining renovations. Whatever was the last straw, the door had to close. Settling is not an option.

Stop Digging in the Trash

Here’s some practical advice to help you stay free:

So, to anyone staring at that empty chair this holiday, claim it. Sit in it. Sip something strong. Smile. And love yourself.

Remember, you deserve someone who goes out of their way to make it obvious they want you in their life.

Cheers to you, fierce, unapologetic, unstoppable.