The Esme Graff Podcast

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Have you ever started believing something about yourself because someone else said it? Or found yourself trying to be everything to everyone, especially after divorce?

In this episode, I'm talking about the lies we believe about ourselves, how those beliefs affect the way we live, and how to stop letting them define our future.

As a single mom, you may have heard that you have to be both mom and dad. You may feel pressure to fill every gap, make up for what your children have lost, and somehow be enough for everyone. But what if you were never meant to carry that burden alone?

Drawing from my own experience as a divorced mom of two, I’m sharing the beliefs I had to challenge, the heartbreak of recognizing what I couldn’t give my children, and how my faith in God helped me understand what was mine to carry and what I needed to release.

In this episode, you'll find:

• How words spoken over you can become the lies you believe about yourself.
• Why even seemingly small beliefs can affect your confidence and decisions.
• The pressure single moms feel to be both mom and dad, and why you don’t have to be everything.
• How to show up for your children with love, patience, grace, and understanding.

If you’re a single mom navigating life after divorce, struggling with self-doubt, or wondering whether you can build a fulfilling future for yourself and your children, this conversation is for you.

You can acknowledge what you’ve been through without allowing it to determine who you become.

You were created for more than surviving your circumstances. You can grow, make a plan, invest in your future, and experience the abundant life God has for you.

So let me ask you: What lies are you believing, and are you ready to stop living as though they’re true?

Listen in, and let’s talk about it.

If this episode encouraged you, follow The Esme Graff Podcast, leave a review, and share it with a single mom who needs this reminder today.

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Welcome back!

Today I’m joined by my friend Phil Ransom. Phil has spent his life helping people connect their work, their relationships, and their lives to a deeper sense of purpose. 

Our conversation is one you don't want to miss as we talk about influence, gratitude, generosity, and legacy.

What you'll hear:

• Why someone else’s success doesn’t have to diminish yours
• The four ways we influence people, including the influence we may never see
• How gratitude and generosity can change the way we show up when life feels heavy
• Why your legacy starts with what you’re building and giving away today

Phil brings a powerful reminder: your influence matters, even when you don’t see the results.

Press play and let’s talk about the kind of influence and legacy you’re building.

Here is how you can connect with Phil:  Website, The Vibrance Community, YouTube

Podcat Website: The Esme Graff Podcast
Connect with me on social media (Instagram) or visit my website at www.esmegraff.com to stay updated on new episodes, book releases, and more!
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What if the insecurity you've been carrying isn’t actually the truth?

In this episode, Esme asks one simple question that can change the way you see yourself: Who told you?

Who told you that you’re too old?
Who told you that no one will want you because you’re divorced with kids?
Who told you that you’re not enough?
Who told you that your past gets to determine your future?

After taking her annual summer break to reevaluate her life, Esme returns with a deeply personal conversation about insecurity, faith, unanswered prayers, and the lies we sometimes believe about ourselves.

She shares a painful moment from her own divorce when someone told her no one would ever want to marry her. Years later, she realized she had carried someone else’s words as if they were true.

And there’s a reason Esme believes asking “Who told you?” is so powerful.

Because before you believe a thought, you need to know where it came from.

Through the story of Eve in Genesis 3, her own journey as a divorced single mom, and the hard questions that have challenged her personally, Esme invites you to stop accepting every thought as truth and start looking for its source.

If you’ve ever questioned your worth, your future, your identity, or whether the thing you’ve been praying for will ever happen, this episode is for you.

You may not be able to control every thought that comes into your mind. But you can choose which ones you believe!!!

Press play and ask yourself: Who told you?

Podcat Website: The Esme Graff Podcast
Connect with me on social media (Instagram) or visit my website at www.esmegraff.com to stay updated on new episodes, book releases, and more!
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Welcome!!

This episode is for the single mom who’s tired of putting her life on hold while waiting for everything to feel “complete.” 

In this honest and faith-filled conversation, Esme shares the mindset shift that changed everything: choosing peace over happiness. From navigating divorce, heartbreak, and single motherhood to building a purposeful life, business, and memories with her children, this episode is a reminder that healing, joy, and growth are still possible right where you are.

If you’ve been struggling with identity after divorce, waiting for the “right time,” or wondering how to move forward with confidence, this conversation will encourage you to stop postponing your life and start living with intention today!

In this episode:

• Finding peace after divorce
• Letting go of shame, fear, and waiting
• Creating joy and meaningful memories now

This episode will remind you that your future is not on pause and neither is your purpose.

Go be the person you were created to be!

Podcat Website: The Esme Graff Podcast
Connect with me on social media (Instagram) or visit my website at www.esmegraff.com to stay updated on new episodes, book releases, and more!
© 2024 Esme Graff LLC. All rights reserved.

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Welcome!

What if the breakthrough you’ve been waiting for isn’t about doing more… but finally doing what you already said you would?

In this episode of The Esme Graff Podcast, I'm getting practical about what it actually takes to become the person you keep saying you want to be.

Because growth isn’t complicated, but it is costly. And the price is consistency.

Here are the 3 disciplines we break down today:

1. Keep the promises you make to yourself
Self-trust isn’t built in public—it’s built in private.
Every kept promise compounds confidence. Every broken one reinforces doubt.
If you don’t trust yourself, nothing else scales.

2. Protect your environment
Your environment is not neutral—it’s either multiplying you or minimizing you.
What you consume. Who you listen to. What you tolerate.
It’s either feeding your future or starving it.

3. Tell yourself the truth
Excuses function just like lies.
“I don’t have time.”
“I’m waiting for the right moment.”
“This is just who I am.”
Those aren’t facts. They’re patterns. And patterns can change.

Here’s the bottom line:
You don’t need a new life. You need stronger and higher standards.

Practical Exercise:
Write this down: “The truth is, I am where I am because...”
Finish the sentence. Say it out loud. Then decide what action "that truth" requires.

Because clarity creates courage. And courage creates change.

If this episode challenged you, follow the show and leave a review. It helps more people step into the growth they’ve been avoiding.

Connect with me at www.esmegraff.com

Later,

Esme

Podcat Website: The Esme Graff Podcast
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Welcome!

Some habits don’t look destructive at first. They sound normal. They feel justified. They’ve become so familiar that you don’t even question them anymore. But they are draining your confidence, stealing your peace, and keeping you stuck.

In this honest and empowering episode, Esme shares three things you need to stop doing right now if you want to grow and move forward with purpose: 

• Negative self-talk
• Comparison 
• Making excuses. 

You’ll hear real-life stories, practical truth, and the kind of loving challenge that helps you confront what’s holding you back. Because transformation doesn’t begin when life gets easier, it begins when you decide to think differently, speak differently, and take ownership of what comes next.

If you’ve been feeling frustrated, stuck, or tired of repeating the same cycles, this conversation will meet you right where you are.

In this episode, you’ll learn:
• How hidden negative self-talk silently shapes your reality
• Why comparison has nothing to do with social media and everything to do with identity
• The difference between a real obstacle and an excuse
• How satisfaction, responsibility, and self-awareness create freedom

This episode is your reminder: you are not powerless, you are not behind, and you are not stuck unless you choose to stay there.

If this episode encouraged you, be sure to follow, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs this message today.

Later,

Podcat Website: The Esme Graff Podcast
Connect with me on social media (Instagram) or visit my website at www.esmegraff.com to stay updated on new episodes, book releases, and more!
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Hello and welcome!

This episode is an honest one. No filter, no performance — just a real conversation about faith, motherhood, being single, and what it actually looks like to build a life rooted in Truth.

This week, Esme goes behind the curtain and answers the questions she gets asked the most. What is it really like to be a single mom? How do you raise kids with values when you can no longer control what they watch, wear, or do? Is she dating? And why will she never, under any circumstances, use a dating app?

In this episode, you will hear:

• What single mom life actually looks like after a divorce: The loneliness, the rebuilding, and why she calls motherhood the greatest role she has ever been given.
• What you see is what you get, and she means that. Esme talks about why she stopped pretending a long time ago, why she will always choose the coffee shop she actually loves, and why the time you give to other people is too valuable to waste on something that doesn't feel right.
• The truth about being single: the joy, the hard parts, the awkward moments of going to church alone, and why she is not crying about it every day.
• Is she trying to date? Yes. Is she on the apps? Absolutely not! She is clear about why. She knows her worth, she trusts God's timing, and she is not willing to settle out of fear or desperation. This part of the conversation is honest, maybe a little funny, and completely unapologetic.

If you have ever searched for a podcast for Christian single moms, a faith-based conversation about life after divorce, or just someone who will tell you the truth, this is that episode.

Know your worth, protect your peace, and trust that the life God has for you is better than anything you could swipe your way into.

Podcat Website: The Esme Graff Podcast
Connect with me on social media (Instagram) or visit my website at www.esmegraff.com to stay updated on new episodes, book releases, and more!
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Welcome! 

I'm going to get straight to the point. You're not lost because you don't have a dream. You're lost because you've never decided on a destination, and every day you keep moving without one is a day you can't get back.

In this episode, Esme is done letting you stay comfortable in the planning phase. She's pulling out the mirror, asking the question most of us have been quietly dodging, and walking you through a powerful exercise that will get you crystal clear on what you're actually building toward — and whether your daily actions are taking you there.

Grab a pen. You're going to want to do this one!!!

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why not knowing your destination is costing you more than time, and what it's silently stealing from your life
• The 15-minute "65th birthday" exercise that reveals exactly what you want your life to look like and whether you're on track to get there
• The real reason most people never get what they want (and it has nothing to do with talent or timing)
• What it looks like to evaluate your life like a purposeful leader before you drift too far off course

If you've been spinning your wheels, checking boxes, and secretly wondering if the life you want is still possible for you, this episode is going to hit.

And if you're a single mom who hears all of this and thinks "that's not my reality" — Esme wants to hear from you. Reach out at [email protected] and let's figure out your first step together.

Loved this episode? Share it with a woman who needs the push, leave a review, and tell me about your dream life!

Podcat Website: The Esme Graff Podcast
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Most people spend their lives chasing success, relationships, and achievements… hoping that one day it will finally feel like enough. Yet even when you reach the goals you once dreamed about, the question still lingers: Why do I still feel unfulfilled?

In this episode, I'm diving into two of the most important questions you will ever have to answer: Who are you, and why are you here?

Before you can build meaningful friendships, find the right community, or step confidently into your purpose, there is deeper work that has to happen internally. Because the truth is simple but often uncomfortable: we attract who we are. If we want strong, purposeful relationships in our lives, we have to become the kind of person who cultivates them.

I share parts of my own journey—from defining myself through work, success, and circumstances to learning what it truly means to let God shape my identity. I also talk about why so many high achievers still feel empty, even after accomplishing everything they thought would make them happy.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Why knowing who you are is the foundation for building meaningful friendships
• The danger of letting your job, achievements, or circumstances define your identity
• Why even the most successful people still struggle with fulfillment
• The difference between chasing success and living your true purpose
• How faith can anchor your identity in something that doesn’t change

If you’ve ever felt like you should be happier than you are… or wondered why your accomplishments haven’t filled the deeper void, this episode will challenge you to pause and ask the questions that truly shape your life.

Because when you know who you are and why you’re here, everything changes—from the people you surround yourself with to the way you live every single day.

If you would like to know more about purpose, reach out to me, and let's start the conversation!

Go live out your purpose and be who God created you to be! 

Later,

Podcat Website: The Esme Graff Podcast
Connect with me on social media (Instagram) or visit my website at www.esmegraff.com to stay updated on new episodes, book releases, and more!
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Hello and welcome back!

Is it really easier to be friends with men than with women? 

In this episode, Esme challenges the common belief that having guy friends is somehow better or less complicated than investing in friendships with other women. Drawing from her experience growing up with brothers, working in male-dominated environments, and navigating motherhood, she shares why female friendships play a unique and irreplaceable role in a woman’s life.

This conversation isn’t about dismissing male friendships. It’s about recognizing the emotional support, understanding, and freedom that often exists when women build strong communities with one another.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why the “guys are easier to be friends with” belief can be misleading
• The unique emotional support women offer each other
• Why healthy female friendships create space to be fully yourself

If you’ve ever struggled to find your tribe or wondered if strong female friendships are worth the effort, this episode will encourage you to keep investing in the women around you.

Today's challenge: Text a girlfriend(s) and schedule that coffee date. 

Listen to Part 1 of this short series: Why You Need a Women-Only Community Right Now (Part 1)

Go be in community with other women and be who God created you to be, and I'll see you here next time.

Later!

Podcat Website: The Esme Graff Podcast
Connect with me on social media (Instagram) or visit my website at www.esmegraff.com to stay updated on new episodes, book releases, and more!
© 2024 Esme Graff LLC. All rights reserved.