Hey friendsNow I want to ask you something.  How many times have you trusted someone only to realize later their intentions weren’t what your thought?  I am sorry tostate that we live in a world where smiles are easy, words are available and sadly loyalty is rare.

There is something deeply human about wanting to see the best in others.  Our parents taught us to trust, to givepeople a chance.  But the truth is not everyone really deserve that chance.  And I tell you this is not cynicism but wisdom.

In this generation of filters, likes and instant connections, it’s getting harder to see what’s real.  People can pretendwarmth with a well-curated feed, pretend to be emphathetic with a perfectlytimed emoji, with a few inspiring quotes even. But energy?   This is the one wecan never ever pretend.

My grandmother once told me “Never trust someone who’s only nice when people are watching.  That really hit me differently as I grew up.  Because the real ones, the ones worth trusting stay consistent in the quiet moments.  They show kindness when there is nothing to gain.  They tell you the truth even when it is uncomfortable.  They protect your name when are not in the I’n the room.

You know the older generation learned to read people by time; by observing patterns, the new generation?

You have got to do it faster, through intuition.  Both the paths lead to the same wisdom.  Protect your peace.  Not everyone, who smiles at you wants to see you win and be happy.

May be you have been hurt by someone, you trusted too soon.  Maybe you saw their true colours when it was already too late. Don’t feel bad for caring. 

That’s your heart’s proof of humanity.  But from nowon, let every lesson strengthen your boundaries, not harden your heart. 

Learn the art of watching quietly, listen not only to what people say, but what they avoid saying.  Notice if these actionsalign with their promises, because one honest moment of observation can save you years of disappointment. 

And here’s the thing.  Friends, reading people isn’tabout judging them.  It’s about protectingyour emotional energy so you can still love fearlessly but wisely.

Your peaceis too expensive to jumble on the wrong path.

So as your walk into you next friendship, relationship or a business meeting, remember this,

Seek the truth, not titles.

Energy, not image.

and Consistency not charm.

The real ones will never need to convince you, you’ll just feel peace and tranquillity around them.  Please, please test before you trust.

Thank youfor tuning in to the ‘THE EYES BEFORE THE HAND SHAKE’. 

If this resonated with you, please share it with someone who gives too much, trusts too soon and loves too hard. 

They may really, really need these words tonight. 

And until next time- keep your hearts open, but your eyes wide And with this dictum, this is your host, Leena Madan. Signing off. 

Love you alland Bye-bye.

Concise form of the Podcast

1.    This podcast explores the psychology of trust, body language, and hidden intentions to help you spot authenticity and protect your peace.

2.    In today’s world, smiles are easy and loyalty is rare — trust must be earned, not given.

3.    Not everyone who appears kind has pure intentions; wisdom lies in seeing beyond appearances.

4.    Social media can fake warmth, but true energy and intentions can never be pretended.

5.   Observe tone, pauses, and consistency — real character shows in quiet moments.

6.    The wise learn to read people — through time or intuition — to guard their emotional energy.

7.    Don’t regret caring; instead, let each lesson strengthen your boundaries, not harden your heart.

8.    Watch patterns, not promises — actions always reveal the truth.

9.    Protectyour peace by seeking energy, not image; consistency, not charm.

10.  The real ones make you feel calm and safe — always test before you trust.