Matthew F. Stevens recounts his time on a Sterling Jewelers debt-collection floor, the moral weight of the work, and how he reframed calls to be helpful rather than extractive.

He explains how learning verbal judo and earning small wins built real competence, even while he was coping with a divorce and a medical crisis, showing regulation and confidence can be developed in specific operational contexts.

Stevens argues this is a systems issue, not a people problem, and introduces ORS as a deliberate way to build regulation into teams so performance can follow.

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