Marriage brings us up close with another person, allowing us to see both the best parts and the most flawed parts in them. It's not a competition to prove who is better or worse, rather a challenge for us to develop humility to embrace the other person in the middle of their pain, wounds, and brokenness. Reconciliation & forgiveness are possible when we follow Christ's example of humility. We can offer perfect forgiveness even though we feel cheated or disappointed because forgiveness sets us free so that we can graciously extend that freedom to others.