In this episode I explore the deeper nature of relationship and the patterns that can quietly erode connection over time.

We are always in relationship, all the time - with others, with ourselves, and with life itself, and the quality of our relationships is deeply connected to the relationship we have within ourselves.

Relationship can act as a mirror, reflecting back aspects of ourselves we may not otherwise see, and in intimate relationships, this reflection becomes even clearer,  sometimes revealing patterns, expectations, and unconscious behaviours that can create tension and disconnection.

In this episode, I share one of the most practical and transformative insights in relationship work - the four behaviours identified by John Gottman that can damage connection if left unexamined.

These are - Criticism Defensiveness Contempt and Stonewalling

Through reflection and real-life insight, I explore how these patterns show up, why they arise, and how awareness of them can begin to transform the way we relate.

Because ultimately, the most powerful shift we can make in any relationship is not trying to change the other person,  but becoming aware of what we bring into the space between us.