Can an online quiz really tell you who you are in BDSM? How long does it take three neurodivergent kinksters to take a test together (and just how many Barbarella references can we fit into our commentary)?  Charlie and I decide to take the (in?)famous BDSM Test and compare it with another sexuality self test MojoUpgrade. While working our way into the first test we got a call from one of our favorite humans, Sir Aiden Charming, who joined us in the test adventure and commentary. We laugh, we cringe, we learn about ourselves and each other. This is a truncated version of our online shenanigans, while Patreon listeners have the opportunity to do the tests with us in a  2-hour long play by play, query by query recording. So buckle up for this blast from the past (we actually recorded this in the summer 2024 but Kat got overwhelmed by the editing process #spoonielife #betterlatethannever).

Have you done these or other sexuality/kink tests? What did you like or dislike? Let us know if there's one you think we should take on the pod!

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BDSMtest.org

mojoupgrade.com

Other resources mentioned:

Kat’s Yes/Maybe/No Kink Checklist

Scarleteen’s non-kink/beginner friendly Yes, No, Maybe So: Sexual Inventory Stocklist

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We're back with a new interview episode! I invited my dear friend and metamour, Nicole Nichols, to talk about her amazing work as boudoir photographer. From creating safe spaces for women (and men!) to rediscover and celebrate their bodies to building community traditions in self love, Nicole has touched so many lives!

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In this installment of of Kink Journeys, I sit down with BDSM educator and certified life coach, Jonnyace. Together, we explore the power of consent, the importance of community, and why representation for sadists matters. Jonnyace shares their path from martial arts and polyamory to kink community educator and shaped their identity as a sadist, daddy, and dominant. Honest stories. Fresh perspectives. Real kink journeys.

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In this episode of The Good Love Podcast, I interview the founder of Denver's House of Pleasure, Mistress Pain. Mistress Pain shares her Kink Journey from trying to 'pray the gay way' to creating spaces of erotic exploration and self expression. We also discuss her community vision focused on female pleasure and how many of us connect with sex-positive spaces as a form of ministry and fellowship.

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In my last episode we did a deep-dive for International Female Orgasm Day, including busting through some of the many misconceptions around female sexuality. So this week, I'm bringing on my friend and colleague, Sex Coach Same, to unpack some of the inaccurate and harmful messaging around male sexuality. Whether it's misinformation from society, media or pressure we put on ourselves, we can break the cycles and Sam was happy to share to tools to do this vital self-work.
Trigger Warning for discussion of sexual violence (19:45 - 30:53)

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August 8th is International Female Orgasm Day! So I’m diving into history, bad science, and reclaimed pleasure. Where did this holiday came from? What is the orgasm gap (and why does it still exist)? How can we push back against a society that tries to control our sexuality? I'm unpacking all these questions and more. If you’ve ever been curious about the clit, the G-spot, or why pleasure still feels taboo—this one’s for you!

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Bodysex

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In this episode (recorded live at DomCon LA) I interview Lady Sheba, a powerful Black kink educator and leather community photographer. Sheba shares her journey from curious submissive to confidence-wielding Dominant, exploring how kink helped her reclaim her femininity after trauma. Together we discuss the challenges Black women face in kink spaces, the importance of representation, mentorship, and community accountability, and Sheba’s inspiring photography project for the Carter-Johnson Leather Library & Collection, documenting influential figures in the Leather and BDSM worlds. We also gush about our visit to the iconic Tom of Finland House and the importance of preserving kink history.

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In this powerful episode, I talk with Berlin-based kink artist and educator, Sven Brandy aka "Carnivore". Sven shares his journey from nude photography to immersive kink art, emphasizing consent, authenticity, and cultural differences in kink between Europe and the US. They discuss "play shooting," the art of integrating photography with interactive kink, and dive deep into Edgeplay, safety, preparation, and ritual. Sven also shares his teaching philosophy, upcoming projects, and insights into building supportive kink communities. Whether you're curious about kink artistry or advanced edge play, this episode offers grounded, inspiring wisdom from decades of lived experience.

This is part one of a two hour interview, listen to the full version on Patreon!

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Kat is joined by two guests, Smokey the Babe and Vana X . They dive deep into the evolution of embracing one’s true self within the kink community, share their personal journeys, and discuss the importance of informed and enthusiastic consent. From nostalgic stories of discovering kink to navigating the complexities of relationship dynamics, this conversation is full of playful insights and candid reflections. So, get comfortable, open your mind, and enjoy this thought-provoking session with Kat, Smokey and Vana!

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In this episode of the Good Love Project Podcast, Katrina and Charlie dive into the importance of solo exploration and how it can deepen self-awareness, boost confidence, and enhance both personal and partnered pleasure. They debunk common myths—like the idea that solo pleasure is just a "substitute" or a sign of dissatisfaction—and talk about shifting the mindset to embrace self-connection without guilt. You'll hear tips for unlearning shame-based habits, creating a pleasure-positive space, and exploring at your own pace. Plus, discover Katrina’s 30 Days of Solo Tantra playlist on YouTube for guided practices to support your journey.