The Grimerica Show

Interview starts at 32:00

Luke Storey joins Graham Dunlop and Darren Grimes for a wide-ranging conversation about his new book, A Horse Named Lonesome, and the deeper themes behind it: relational loneliness, addiction recovery, spirituality, and what it means to live with integrity. The discussion also turns into a practical and philosophical look at how modern life, social media, and public identity can either deepen or dilute real human connection.

This episode matters because it connects personal healing to a broader cultural problem. Luke, Graham, and Darren each bring their own experience with sobriety, transformation, and public-facing work, making this more than a book chat—it becomes a candid conversation about connection, attention, and staying aligned in a noisy world.

Key topics

Timestamps

00:00 – Introduction to Luke Storey and A Horse Named Lonesome

01:17 – How the book came together after years of resistance

03:57 – Why books still outlast podcasts and digital media

06:26 – Luke’s memoir structure, birth trauma, and recovery themes

08:33 – Graham’s struggle to turn his recovery story into a book

10:22 – Darren contrasts memoir writing with information-based books

11:29 – Addiction in many forms: nicotine, habits, and dependency

14:20 – The challenge of compressing a lifetime into one readable book

17:43 – Where the title A Horse Named Lonesome came from

19:32 – Loneliness, success, and shrinking social circles

21:24 – The strain of being a public figure and always being “on”

23:12 – Fame, useful reach, and why Luke is glad he never got famous

24:06 – Lessons from 15 years working in Hollywood with celebrities

26:28 – Fewer, deeper relationships versus many shallow ones

27:01 – Does modern work leave any room for reflection and growth?

28:26 – The system, contemplative life, and attention as the new store of value

30:17 – Why entrepreneurship is not the easy path people assume

35:30 – Kids, legacy, and how childlessness changed Luke’s motivation

37:47 – What “selling out” means now and where Luke draws the line

39:33 – The one PR pitch Luke refused: promoting a COVID narrative

41:30 – Integrity, authenticity, and the cost of compromise

42:49 – Why Allison’s intuition matters in Luke’s relationships

45:53 – Loneliness in the modern era: more connected, less intimate

47:13 – Losing basic social skills in a phone-dominated culture

49:36 – How book writing can temporarily erase your social life

50:35 – Why real connection requires physical presence and trust

51:39 – Contact at the Cabin and the value of in-person gatherings

54:03 – Using digital reach to bring people into real-life community

55:31 – The post-pandemic fault line and the need for community

57:08 – Truth seekers, authority, and why many people prefer comfort

59:21 – Finding like-minded people who want deeper conversations

63:07 – Luke’s spiritual view of identity, oneness, and separation

65:02 – Why he sees evil as disconnection from love, not a standalone force

65:52 – Where to find Luke, his book, and his podcast

67:54 – Canadian government, freedom, and the trucker protest

70:04 – Outro, show updates, and supporter shoutouts