Do you feel like your calendar is running you, instead of the other way around?In this episode, Rhonda Lavoie tackles the epidemic of the "Guilt Yes." If you are a high-capacity woman who feels resentful every time you look at your schedule, this episode is your permission slip to quit.

Rhonda shares the messy, real-time struggle of closing the "TUF Collaborative" coffee meetups—and the moment she realized that by waiting at an empty table, she wasn't being a leader; she was just being a martyr with a macchiato.

She also breaks down the strategic difference between quitting the AAC Chair (low ROI) vs. keeping the School Council Chair (high family ROI). Learn how to use Opportunity Cost to evaluate your schedule, how to color-code your calendar for a "Resentment Audit," and the exact 24-hour rule you need to stop over-committing.

In This Episode:

• (00:00) - Confession: Why I’m haunting my own business.

• (02:30) - The "Go-To Girl" Trap: Competence vs. Obligation.

• (05:00) - The Coffee Shop Realization: Martyrdom isn't leadership.

• (06:29) - Strategic Quitting: Why I stepped down as AAC Chair.

• (08:27) - The 4 Buckets Framework (Ego, Guilt, Strategic, Heart).

• (12:40) - Opportunity Cost: You can't spend the same dollar twice.

• (16:30) - The "Nice No": Exact script to cancel plans gracefully.

Resources Mentioned:

• Free Download: The 4 Buckets Cheat Sheet + The "Just Say No" Phone Wallpaper: rhondalavoie.com

  
  

• Derek Sivers: "Hell Yeah or No" Concept

  
  

This Week's Challenge:Find that one "Ghost" on your calendar—the commitment that is dead weight but you're still dragging around—and kill it using the script provided in this episode.

🔗 CONNECT WITH RHONDA

• Website: rhondalavoie.com

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Music for The Rhonda Lavoie Podcast written and recorded by Wade and Tan Fehr.

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