In this episode of #YouGoodMan?, Dr. Phillip Roundtree talks with therapist and author Arron Muller about the pressure many Black men feel to always perform, always achieve, and always be strong.

Arron explains the idea behind his book The Hidden Cost of Black Exceptionalism and how that pressure often leads to burnout, emotional exhaustion, and disconnection from ourselves.

They talk about therapy, boundaries, rest, and why healing for Black men has to include the realities of racism, systemic pressure, and cultural expectations.

Episode Highlights

00:00 Intro 00:40 “You good man?” check-in 02:20 Why Arron became “The Black Therapist” 04:50 What traditional therapy misses about Black men 12:40 Learning boundaries and saying no 16:00 The Hidden Cost of Black Exceptionalism 21:00 Protecting your peace 23:30 Reflection: where are you performing?