Paul explains why marriage resolutions often fail: part of you may secretly resist change because the habit provides hidden rewards, or you’re changing for someone else rather than yourself. Change is slow, emotional, and rarely a straight line.

He recommends working quietly on changes you truly want, avoiding public announcements, and getting professional help when resistance is rooted in trauma, addiction, or mental health. The episode closes with a brief year-end giving update and a reminder about the tax-deductible donation deadline.

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