THE HOME WITHIN

Part 1: FOUNDATION

1. We have many homes. Some are places, some are people. But the most important home is the one within us. How do we feel welcome there every day and in every way?

2. Can you believe that beneath all the muck and the grime and the old stories, you remain at your core what you have always been, intrinsically valuable regardless of your actions? You don’t need to be better or to do more. You need to know yourself for who you are.

3. To truly relax, you must feel safe in yourself and know that whatever may go on in the world, you will always be safe in the silence of your soul.

4. Be with yourself. Even when you see or feel things that make you feel angry, fearful or ashamed, can you be with yourself and meet yourself with empathy and love?

Part 2: SELF-KNOWLEDGE

5. Picture someone you care deeply about in your mind’s eye. Say to them, ‘May you be at peace. May you be loved. May you be healthy and strong.’ Now do the same thing for yourself and notice how much harder it can be.

6. Can you look at the gaps within yourself without judgment and rather than waiting for someone else to fill them, can you fill them yourself knowing that you have everything you need to do so?

7. Can you find happiness and peace within yourself? Can you know you are more than enough? Can you know that these two things are essential to your path and will bring you what you desire?

8. Can you think of a person close to your soul? Now can you believe in yourself the way they believe in you? Can you see yourself the way they see you? Can you love yourself the way that they love you?

Part 3: SELF-COMPASSION

9. Can you be a little more of yourself today? Not who you think you need to be and not who you wish you were? Can you accept that you have such light to give but also accept there is darkness and sadness within you? Can you come a step closer to being you and to know that is more than enough?

10. Can you be your own rock today? Can you be your own calm in the storm? Can you see yourself as strong, as good, as loving, as lovable? Can that be enough for you today?

11. Can you revel in your imperfections? Can you see the joy in your mistakes? Can you realize that in your mistakes are your growth? Can you appreciate those who see past your imperfections to the beauty and wonder of your soul? Can you see yourself through their eyes just a little bit more?

12. Can you look in the mirror today, not the funhouse mirror of your mind but the reflection that is there in the eyes of love? Can you see that your flaws are still there, your mistakes, your misses? But can you see your soul shining through, your intent, your purpose? Only when you see yourself clearly can you truly bring your light to the world.

Part 4: BEING YOURSELF

13. Can you find peace in being without a tribe? Can you feel the freedom that comes with simply being you? Can you find it within yourself to wander the wilderness for a while? Can you spend less time looking and more time seeing?

14. Can you remove the pressure you place on yourself to perform? Can you feel how natural it can be when you are simply being yourself? When you are in that space, being the authentic you, can you feel the relief and freedom that comes from not performing at all? In that space can you simply be and feel joy?

15. Can you write your own story? Can you hear what the world thinks and treat it as input rather than fact? Can you acknowledge your opportunities without refusing to see your wins? Can you simply be a little kinder to yourself and let that change the face in the mirror?

16. Can you tune out all the advice you have been given and simply focus on being you? Can you know that all those who mean so well are not you and cannot be? Can you let them have their say and then simply be your authentic self? If you can, you will find your place, your authentic place.

Part 5: COMING HOME

17. Can you give yourself permission to be imperfect today, to be human? Can mistakes be met with acceptance and learning? Can your path be the one that is perfect for you and not a pale imitation of another’s? In short can you love you, who you are, who you have, and what you have? You are a blessing. Close your eyes and feel it.

18. What about you can you celebrate today? Can you focus less on what you did than on who you are? Can you hear less of what is said about you than what you know to be true? Can you see a truer reflection of your soul more than what you see in the mirror? Can you believe in yourself just a little more?

19. Today can you focus solely on living up to your own expectations? Can you hold yourself to your standard and can that be enough? Can you let go of the anger and frustration of not being seen or appreciated and simply hold on to the wonder that you are? Can you believe in you just a little more?

20. If the essence of faith is believing in the unprovable, can you have more faith in your own worth? Can you stop trying to prove it, to others and to yourself? Can that faith be enough for you, even when the facts point in a different direction? Can you find others of the faith and let them reinforce your belief? They are out there. Are you listening?

21. Can you hold yourself close? Can you see yourself clearly? Can you take in all that you are and all that you can be? Can today be a day where you believe in you and let the voices that don’t simply pass you by, even if the loudest voice is your own?

22. Can you anchor yourself to hope, to joy, to love? Can you draw those to you who are ready to be with you? Can you let those go who would pull you away? Can you be happier with a few boats that belong than worrying about all those who sail by? Their destinations are their own. Can you hold on to yours?

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