The Hook Up

Are you having quickies or spending hours having sex? And is there a perfect sweet spot for how long the sesh should last?

SHOW NOTES:

The Conversation study on average length of sex

DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected]

The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Intimacy with your partner is super important to have but it’s also easy to lose if you don’t make the effort. We get advice from a sex and relationship therapist on what she reckons is the most important type of intimacy, and how to get it back if you’ve lost that spark. 

SHOW NOTES: Aleks Trkulja - sex, relationships and body image therapist and founder of The Pleasure Centre

DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected]

The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Intimacy is SO different for everyone so it’s kinda hard to describe - from light touches and vulnerable conversations to cooking together and slow dancing in the kitchen, we hear all the ways you love to be intimate with someone.

SHOW NOTES:

5 Types Of Intimacy

DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected]

The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Whether it’s getting wet, maintaining an erection, the pressure to perform and orgasm, being intimate can make you feel super vulnerable and can bring some deep rooted anxieties to the surface. We chat to Dr Nicole Cain, an expert in trauma-informed clinical psychology, about why panic can manifest, how to spot the warning signs and how to manage it.

SHOW NOTES:

Instagram: Dr Nicole Cain

DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected]

The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

If you’re spiralling after a break up, you’ll probs hear someone insist “you just need to be single for a while!!!” People love to hand out this advice - but why is it good to be alone for a bit? We get your tips on how to decenter relationships and fully embrace being single w/ special cohost Louis Hanson.

SHOW NOTES:

Resources for decentering relationships

Tiktok: TherapyJeff

Book: All About Love - Bell Hooks

Podcast: Jillian On Love by Jillian Turecki

DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected]

The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Does a good relationship take hard work or should it be easy? Well… it’s complicated. We chat to sex and relationship therapist Isiah McKimmie to find out how to strike the balance, and how to clock the signs that you should let go.

SHOW NOTES:

Gottman Institute on "perpetual problems"

DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected]

The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

When people say “good relationships take hard work”, do you agree? Or do you think if you’re with the right person, it should be easy breezy smooth sailing? We hear all your takes with special co-host Hannah Ferguson.

DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected]

The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

It’s one of the most common STIs that often goes undetected for years - so whether you’re casually dating or in a long term relationship, how do you bring it up with a partner? We get sex coach Georgia Grace’s advice on how to have that conversation. 

SHOW NOTES:

Pod ep: Everyone Has Herpes*

BONUS: how getting herpes can change your life for the better

Herpes support group: Herpes support group via Comfortable In My Skin

DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected]

The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Toni and Ryan heard your secrets about livestreaming nuts and tonsil stones, we got some hot takes about how funerals make you horny, and Pip brought up her wikifeet AGAIN.

DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected]

The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

You dm’d us asking for tips - so we grabbed Love On The Spectrum’s counsellor Jodie Rodgers to share her advice on navigating communication, rejection, online dating, and how to best support as a neurotypical partner. 

SHOW NOTES:

Jodi Rodgers Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jodirodgers_/?hl=en

Jodi's website: https://www.birdsandbees.com.au/

DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected]

The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.