If you’re keen to explore consensual non-monogamy or open up your relationship - this ep is for you! Psychologist and Author Dr Chris Cheers chats to Dee about his own poly identity, how he navigates having a husband and a partner, and shares his advice on how to do non-monogamy ‘ethically.’ 

SHOW NOTES:

ABC iview Compass Episode - Beyond Monogamy

Dr Chris Cheers Instagram 

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The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Seeing the term ‘ENM’ in dating app bios? Noticing your friends are opening up their relationships? Ethical Non-Monogamy is on the rise in young people, so in this ep we find out from you how it’s going - the good, the bad and the horny. 

SHOW NOTES:

ENM explained: 

https://www.abc.net.au/news/2025-04-27/inside-lives-polyamory-ethical-non-monogamy-enm-ethics/105216136

https://www.abc.net.au/triplej/programs/the-sunday-hook-up/ethical-non-monogamy-open-relationship-polyamory-enm-dating-apps/13624808

ENM on the rise: 

https://today.yougov.com/society/articles/27639-millennials-monogamy-poly-poll-survey-data

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The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

A lot more people are adding terms like ‘dom’ or ‘sub’ or ‘switch’ to their dating app bios - so what does it mean? Dee chats to sexologist Lauren French about how to add power play into your love life and how to spot a ‘fake dom’.

SHOW NOTES:

1800 Respect - 1800 737 732

LifeLine - 13 11 14

More info on powerplay and sex: https://www.abc.net.au/triplej/programs/the-sunday-hook-up/power-dynamics-in-sex-top-bottom-dominant-submissive/11996290

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The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

What does it mean to actually be dominant or submissive in sex? Because you told us heaps of people are abusing their preference to be “dominant”, and you’re ending up physically, sexually and emotionally hurt. We explore dom/sub dynamics, hearing your stories from how it can be the best sex of your life when done right, but traumatic when done wrong. 

SHOW NOTES:

1800 Respect - 1800 737 732 

LifeLine - 13 11 14

More info on powerplay and sex: https://www.abc.net.au/triplej/programs/the-sunday-hook-up/power-dynamics-in-sex-top-bottom-dominant-submissive/11996290

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The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Around one in ten women and people with uteruses in the world have endometriosis. And even though it can be one of the most debilitating and painful conditions - there’s still no cure. 

But now a huge study has found a really interesting link between endo and childhood. We’ll unpack it in this episode with Associate Professor Dr Theresa Larkin. Plus she’ll explain what the symptoms of endo are, the process to diagnosis, treatment and pain management. 

SHOW NOTES:

Endometriosis research

Theresa’s research on pelvic pain

Theresa’s article about hysterectomy

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The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Everyone’s talking about incels - but what about women who’re struggling to date and have sex? Enter ‘femcels’ – a term that’s got people divided online, with some even saying they don’t exist. We investigate the history of incels, how a new movement of women identify with the term, and what that looks like in your dating lives.

SHOW NOTES:

The Woman Who Founded “Incel Movement”: https://www.bbc.com/news/world-us-canada-45284455

From femcels to ‘femcelcore’: Women’s involuntary celibacy and the rise of heteronihilism

https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/13675494241293731

How "Femcels" Differ From Incels:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-modern-heart/202211/how-do-femcels-and-incels-differ

Research debunking 80/20 theory: https://www.psypost.org/romantic-attraction-and-evolution-new-study-pinpoints-key-traits-in-mate-selection/

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The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Author and podcaster Jemma Sbeg is behind one of the world’s most popular podcasts - The Psychology Of Your 20s. Always backed with receipts - Jemma chats to Dee about what the research shows when it comes to love, dating and relationships in one of the most turbulent decades of your life.

SHOW NOTES:

Jemma Sbeg’s Instagram

The Psychology Of Your 20s podcast

Jemma’s book: Person In Progress

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The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

We're off on holidays!! Don't stress, we'll be back with fresh new content soon - but in the meantime go check out the feed for any episodes you haven't heard yet. MISS YOU ALREADY!! xxx

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The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

You might not realise but financial abuse is a form of domestic and family violence. It can happen in your relationship without you even realising. 

So in this episode, Dee chats to the CEO of Full Stop Australia Karen Bevan about what economic abuse can actually look like, how to spot the signs early, how to get help. Plus, how podcasters encouraging their partners to stay at home to be 'happier' can be dangerous. 

SHOW NOTES:

Full Stop Australia helpline: 1800 385 578

1800 Respect: 1800 737 732

Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978

Lifeline: 13 11 14 

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The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Is it a recession indicator that no one can afford to date right now? We find out how the cost of living crisis is impacting your love life, how important financial compatibility is for a relationship and whether or not you should merge or keep your money separate. 

SHOW NOTES:

BMO Real Financial Progress Index (2025) - The price of love: How a rising cost of living is affecting dating and relationships

Lending Tree Report - 23% of People in Relationships Have Ended One Due to Financial Incompatibility 

Fidelity study - How money can build or break your relationship, according to experts 

International Association for Relationship Research - “When couples fight about money, what do they fight about?” (2023)

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The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.