In our last ep, we spoke about how young people are the most politically divided generation ever. So why are guys turning to the right and becoming more traditional? And if progressive feminist women are choosing to be single is that even a bad thing? 

In this episode, Dee unpacks what's going on for men with Clinical Psych Dr Zac Seidler.

SHOW NOTES:

Last year's ep with Zac: How To Date In The Current Gender Violence Crisis 

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The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Research shows that women are getting more progressive and men are becoming more conservative - so how is this growing political divide affecting your love life? We hear your experiences of right-wing dudes wokefishing on dates, and your takes on how the algorithm is making you want to quit dating altogether - and if going boy sober is a bad thing.

SHOW NOTES:

Research on gender divide in politics:

https://www.afr.com/politics/federal/australia-s-gender-divide-why-young-men-and-women-are-pulling-apart-20241120-p5ks5z

https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2024/nov/14/us-election-donald-trump-voters-gender-race-data

https://www.ft.com/content/29fd9b5c-2f35-41bf-9d4c-994db4e12998

Research on algorithms and toxic content: https://www.dcu.ie/humanities-and-social-sciences/news/2024/apr/new-research-shows-how-tiktok-and-youtube-shorts-are

Articles of demise of dating/relationships:

https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2024/12/4b-sex-strike-american-dating/680770/

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2025/feb/09/were-in-a-relationship-recession-and-a-lot-of-women-are-absolutely-fine-with-that

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The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

A lot of people think if you argue in your relationship it means something is wrong, but relationship therapist and sexologist Lucille Shackleton says it’s actually a good thing - it just depends on how you fight.

In this ep Dee Salmin gets all the advice from Lucille on how to deal with conflict with your partner in a healthy way. 

SHOW NOTES: 

Lucille's Instagram

Lucille's book All In

Gottman Institute research on conflict 

DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected]

The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

‘Micro cheating’ is the new trend online, and everyone’s got a hot take on what it looks like. So what do you consider ‘micro cheating’? And is it worth ending a relationship over?

DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected]

The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

A lot of the time if we’re struggling in our love lives, whether that’s attracting the wrong people, or ending up in bad relationships, we usually blame the other person/people. 

But sometimes it has a lot to do with ourselves. 

In this episode relationship therapist and sexologist Lucille Shackleton chats to Dee about the ways we can unpack our bad dating habits and create the safe and healthy love we deserve. 

SHOW NOTES: 

Lucille Shackleton Instagram: @lucille.shackleton 

DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected]

The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

From moaning names and describing your hottest fantasies, we ask you what you think about dirty talk - what you love about it, what you hate about it, and how you reckon you can level up your vernacular in and out of the bedroom.

SHOW NOTES:

Articles on audio erotica: https://www.allure.com/story/sensual-auralism-dirty-talk

https://www.dazeddigital.com/life-culture/article/58354/1/why-so-many-women-are-turning-to-audio-erotica-frolicme-dipsea

Dirty talk research: https://bigthink.com/the-present/dirty-talk/

https://getmaude.com/blogs/themaudern/the-science-behind-dirty-talk

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The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

We’re back and we have a LOT to discuss - from debriefing our debauchery to hearing all about your summer secrets. 

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The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

A lot of you told us that you think you either have sexual chemistry with someone from the beginning or you don’t. 

So if you’re dating/sleeping with someone and you feel like the spark just isn’t there, is it worth sticking around? 

Sex coach Georgia Grace has A LOT to tell you.

Plus, he gives us a spicy hot take and sings some original songs for you. cs, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup or email us: [email protected]

The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Comedian Morgan Jay comes through the Hook Up studios to give us the sweet sweet sounds of autotune. Dee and Pip get the goss on his tour, dms, dirty talk and his open relationship. 

Plus, he gives us a spicy hot take and sings some original songs for you. cs, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup or email us: [email protected]

The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Content creator Evelyn Miller was born with complete uterus didelphys, a medical condition which means she has two vaginas. She has to use two tampons, can have two babies from two different guys at the same time and can have double the fun in her sex life.

We chat to her about what her vulva looks like, how sex feels and what it's been like being an Only Fans creator with her husband.

DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup or email us: [email protected]

The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.