The Hoss Lady

When you think of seasonal depression, the holiday decorations may not come to mind. But in today's episode, I talk about my own struggle with holiday clutter and seasonal depression. I offer a few ways to jumpstart clearing that fog - from our minds and from our spaces. 

If you want to work with me, Becky, The Hoss Lady... visit my website at www.thehosslady.com for all the information. 

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Coach Kim is Here!! 
Becky introduced Kim Arrington, who shared her experience of helping women over 40 transform their lives through coaching and her recently launched program, Half-life Weight Loss. Both emphasized the importance of practical and achievable steps in personal transformation. They discussed experiences with replacing emotional eating with other vices, and the issue of accumulating unnecessary clutter. Kim shared her journey of losing weight and how it led to increased spending and introduced the Dcr method from her course, which encourages self-discovery beyond societal influences. The conversation suggested that excessive shopping could be a sign of needing a new vice. Kim and Becky discussed strategies to overcome procrastination and manage overwhelming thoughts. Kim suggested making small changes, like going for a walk or getting a glass of water, to break up the monotony of larger tasks. Becky admitted that even while engaging in an enjoyable activity like crafting, she was still plagued with thoughts of unfinished tasks. Kim suggested practicing mindfulness, allowing thoughts to pass without getting caught up in them, as a tool to manage this. They concluded the conversation with an emphasis on recognizing the need for personal time and self-care. Kim and Becky discussed the importance of mindfulness and being present, particularly during mundane tasks like washing dishes. They suggested that these moments could be extended and used to cultivate a sense of peace and calm. They also acknowledged the role of shame in avoiding tasks and how this can lead to a cycle of avoidance and further accumulation of clutter. Becky shared her personal struggle with this issue and highlighted how shopping can sometimes be a way of seeking a dopamine hit to counteract feelings of shame. Kim and Becky discussed strategies to overcome their impulses to shop and make other unhelpful habits. Kim shared how she has managed to reduce her Amazon purchases and suggested that creating new habits, such as using items already owned, can provide a similar dopamine hit to shopping. They also talked about the importance of small, daily changes, like putting the remote back in its place, to alter patterns of behavior. They agreed that acceptance and willingness to change are crucial for personal growth. Kim and Becky discussed the importance of small, consistent actions and habits, such as always putting things back in their place. 

To Learn More about Kim and her amazing self... check out her website. 

To Learn More about Becky, The Hoss Lady and The Total Home Reset click here! 

Becky provided an update on her carpal tunnel surgery, expressing improved healing and movement. 

She advised utilizing wall space and using shower caddies for organized storage. She further discussed the importance of efficient use of horizontal space and shared some space-saving tips, including using small picture frames and a large trash can.

Becky shared her experiences and tips about organizing a dorm room. She emphasized the importance of using command hooks due to the thick walls in most dorms which don't allow nails or tape. Becky also suggested getting a variety of hooks and Velcro for maximum organization options. She further planned to share 10 must-haves and some good tips for maintaining an organized dorm room.

Becky discussed the importance of utilizing wall space in dorm rooms for limited horizontal space. She suggested using command hooks for hanging items, including curtains and laundry bags and recommended a shower caddy for organized storage in shared bathrooms. She also advised on space-saving organizational solutions such as close hanger extensions and shoe organizers for storing towels, underwear, and cleaning supplies. For the bedroom, she suggested a bedside hanging bed organizer, long phone charging cords, a lazy Susan for makeup organization, a small first aid box, and desktop shelves or monitor stands with drawers. Becky shared her top 10 organization tips for college students, including the importance of a hamper with wheels, collapsible ottomans, and clothes hangers.

Becky shared some space-saving tips for small rooms, emphasizing the importance of efficient use of horizontal space, especially near the refrigerator. She suggested using small picture frames and storage solutions on top of the refrigerator. She also advised using a large kitchen-sized trash can to avoid frequent trips downstairs, emphasizing the need to rinse out waste to prevent bad odors. Lastly, she recommended keeping a small plastic tub for dirty dishes until they can be washed in the sink, suggesting a daily or bi-daily routine for this task.

Becky shared her insights on preparing for college as a first-time college parent or student. She stressed the importance of ensuring students have basic necessities and a degree of independence while still offering support and advice. She suggested sending care packages as a way to show support. Becky also mentioned the ongoing challenge of reducing paper clutter at home and encouraged people to sign up for their newsletter. She ended the meeting by reminding listeners to put things away instead of putting them down.

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If you want more help or just want to learn more about Home Organization, let's chat! I offer Free Consultations, In Person Visits, Virtual Decluttering, and an Online Audio Course 

Sometimes it's hard to ask for help. Sometimes we don't even think we need help. But having someone with you, to just be there or to guide you is a game changer. 

So, today I just talk a bit about how asking for help is ok and necessary.

If you need help and want to work with me in person, visit www.thehosslady.com/declutter I work in the Northern Alabama, Southern Kentucky, and Middle Tennessee areas. 

If you need help and want to purchase the audio course that teaches you my techniques and gives you access to me for questions and consultation calls, visit www.thehosslady.com/audiocourse for more info. 

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Y'all... I am not one to get in a gym very easily. I love to dance and move and walk and enjoy nature, but after talking with Ashley Lowe, a fitness and strength coach, I think I am going to start focusing on some muscle building. 

After all, what I do is very physical. I pick up and haul around tons of stuff doing decluttering. But I may not always be able to do so. So, why not get really clear on strengthening my body to keep going as long as possible. 

I think you'll love Ashley. So smart and so compassionate. Here's a little bit about her. I hope you check her out! 

As she approached 40, Ashley embarked on a transformative journey, seeking change in her health, relationships, and overall happiness. Frustrated with body insecurities, she joined a weightloss program, shedding 25 pounds and discovering mindful nutrition. Realizing she was built for more than a smaller pair of pants, she then hired a strength training coach, which led to a complete physique transformation. Now Ashley is the coach she wished she had during her journey. She empowers women with smart, effective training programs to build muscle, embrace their bodies and feel extraordinary.

Ashley has created a Free Guide to Home Gym Essentials for women who want to makeover their catch-all room into a hardworking home gym.

https://ashleyboydenlowe.com/home-gym-checklist/  

If you’d like to learn more about Ashley’s online training programs, she offers a free 30-minute Flab to Fab Framework Session. Schedule yours here: https://ashleyboydenlowe.com/contact/ 

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Ashley Boyden Lowe

DISCLAIMER: Ashley Lowe is not a doctor or registered dietitian. The contents of this email and any attached or linked document should not be taken as medical advice. It is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any health problem - nor is it intended to replace the advice of a physician. Always consult your physician or qualified health professional on any matters regarding your health.

If you want to work with me, The Hoss Lady - simply find me on social media @the_hoss_lady (IG), Becky B Heiman, The Hoss Lady (FB), or TheHossLady on TikTok and Threads. Or visit my website at www.thehosslady.com 

It's hard to admit sometimes when we need help. Most of us were raised in a way where it was frowned upon to ask for help... like we weren't strong or smart enough to figure things out. But the issue with that is we HAVE to ask for help because sometimes other people just have better ideas or think differently - which is what we need. We need new perspectives and to see the world and our situations in a new light. 

This week, I deep dive with a very special client. This is someone I helped earlier this month. I spent a week getting her main level of her house "move-out" ready. She knew she needed to get it done and was going in circles. So, when I went to help her, I noticed she just simply needed a new system. The house wasn't an issue, but her systems of storing items was not working for her. 

And she was so thankful and so glad she asked for my help, she told me I need to do a podcast episode on how and when it's OK to ask for help. 

Such a fun guest and such an amazing transformation to her home. 

Who is this mystery guest??? Well, you'll just have to listen and find out. 

If you or someone you know need help and would like to work with me, The Hoss Lady - contact me at [email protected] - visit my website at www.thehosslady.com  - subscribe to my monthly challenge newsletter - www.thehosslady.com/getstarted 

Laurie Adams and I talk today about how women can find their fullest potential even later in life. Laurie is an amazing coach and her support and experience helped me tremendously in the past. 

I think the thing I love most about the women she helps is that there is a whole generation of women who just get to a certain age and can't even define who they are. But Laurie helps these women find their full potential and it's such a beautiful thing. 

If you are at a point in life where you just need help finding your potential and you're in your 50's or older, consider reaching out to Laurie. I'm sure you'll love our conversation, but working with her is a whole other experience. 

www.laurieadamscoaching.com

"This episode was produced by The Podcast Teacher”

Guys, I just had a moment and wanted to share. We are all human. We all get in our own way sometimes. And the only thing bad that comes out of this is if we don't pick ourselves up and keep going. 

I am sorry for the quality of the audio. I was not about to wait and find a quiet spot to get these thoughts out of my head in order to share. 

Corinne Crabtree of the NoBS Weightloss Program joined me today for a fantastic conversation on how having a Home Organizer has helped her and her family, how having an organized kitchen can help in your weight loss journey, and how taking the process in slow, easy steps will ultimately help you BECOME organized and not just organized your clutter over and over again.

Corinne Crabtree is a Master Certified Weight and Life Coach with a mission to help every woman break generational curses in order to improve their personal health and wealth. Corinne lost 100lbs 15 years ago and ever since, she has dedicated her life to teaching women how to do the same.

Corinne Crabtree is one of the leading voices in the weightloss and business industry. She’s the host of the wildly successful podcast, Losing 100lbs with Corinne, which has been downloaded over 50 million times in 160 countries. Over 1 Million women have taken her free weightloss course and Corinne now serves over 14,000 paid members in the No BS Weightloss Program.

After being a featured expert at The Life Coach School and having her business rank #1052 in the Inc. the 5000 Fastest Growing Businesses of 2022, Corinne founded the No BS Business Women’s Membership. The program provides online entrepreneurs with simple frameworks, tools, and focus they need to take action and build the business of their dreams. In addition, Corinne offers advanced weightloss life coach training for coaches, dietitians and medical professionals who want to improve their client's weightloss outcomes.

You can catch Corinne on Facebook and Instagram talking shit about the diet and online marketing industry. Her greatest passion is helping women get rid of their old shitty thoughts by using self-love to never quit on themselves again.

Losing 100 Podcast/No BS Weightloss Program

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Instagram - @Corinne_Crabtree

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Listen and Subscribe to the Losing 100 Pounds Podcast

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Link to Corinne’s Free Weightloss Course & Website

www.nobsfreecourse.com

Link to Corinne’s Advanced Weightloss Coaching Certification

http://theweightlossuniversity.com/

Link to Corinne’s No BS Business Women Membership 

https://www.nobsbusinesswomen.com/

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TRANSCRIPT:

Becky, The Hoss Lady: Hello. Welcome to the Hoss Lady Podcast, where I help you declutter your life and your home. Hello, everyone. It's Becky, the Hoss lady. I am coming to you from Michigan today as we are doing a summer family tour. We've been to Illinois and Michigan, and next is Kentucky, then Tennessee and back to Alabama. Super fun stuff planned, but that is not what I'm here to talk to you about today. Today, I have a very special guest that I think everyone will thoroughly enjoy. Corinne Crabtree is the owner, founder, and CEO of the Nobs Weight Loss Program, host of the Losing 100 Pounds with Corinne podcast, and owner and founder of the Nobs businesswomen membership. Oh, yeah. And she just bought a restaurant in her hometown where she and her husband will have their date nights, and I don't know how she does it all, but I found Corinne a lot of help.

Corinne Crabtree: Yeah.

Becky, The Hoss Lady: So I found Corinne over four years ago. We both lived in the Nashville area. We both have a son on the spectrum. And then I heard her drop the F bomb, and I knew I had found my people, and I have been in her membership ever since. So I have to say, it has changed my life, and I don't think anyone would argue that she is the most down to earth, no bullshit mentor and life coach that I needed to get my life together. And in her program, I lost over 70 pounds and started my business, two things I never would have believed possible until she taught me how to get out of my way and create the life I wanted. So without further ado, welcome, Corinne. Thank you so very much for being here today. I would love for you to tell my audience a little bit more about yourself and what you love to talk about.

Corinne Crabtree: Well, Lord, I don't know if there's anything left. You pretty much told all the things. I like to go to Vegas a lot. Well, like you said, I lost 100 pounds about 15 years ago, and I really wanted to help other people, especially women, just get out of their own way. For me, it wasn't so much that I didn't need another plan, for sure, and I didn't need somebody telling me what to eat and all that kind of stuff. What I really needed was to learn how to take smaller steps to be there for myself, to figure out the kind of life I really wanted to have and to just not talk like an ******* to myself. I was so mean to myself for so many years about my body and about my weight, and it wasn't until I started learning how to encourage myself, take things slower, just not be so impatient with me, I was just never going to lose my weight. And like you said, I started a business. And then because that business became successful, I started another business. To teach people how to start their own businesses. And then we did buy our own sports bar because my husband and I were terrified they were going to close it. We live in a small town. The only place we could go have a glass of wine and a beer. We were like, we have to buy this. We have to save it.

Becky, The Hoss Lady: But save date night.

Corinne Crabtree: Save our date night because we're committed to living here. We love Nolanville, Tennessee, but we collectively had over 30 years of restaurant experience between the two of us from back in the day. And so when people hear it, they're like, oh, my God, you bought a restaurant. It's like, look, we know what we're doing. We know how to work the back end. People constantly are asking me, how much do you have to work at the restaurant? I didn't buy that restaurant to get a serving job. We hired Good Health, just like I do in both of my companies. I do not work all the time. I plan my day. I follow my plan because I think it's interesting that this is an organization podcast, because one of the things that I learned a long time ago was to value being organized with my time.

Becky, The Hoss Lady: Yes.

Corinne Crabtree: In order to get everything that I get done in a day. It's not because I do a lot. It's because I'm very organized and very selective about what I will put on my calendar, what I won't put on my calendar. I stay away from bullshit if I catch myself putting things on my calendar because I'm people pleasing stuff. That's something I need to solve for myself. Being organized with my time has helped me be able to just do more. So we spend 2 hours a week at that restaurant for work purposes, and we meet with the key management. We have a kitchen manager, we have a general manager, and we have a bar manager. We meet with them for 2 hours a week. We help them make decisions, give them a list of things to work on for the next week. And we're like, See you next week, because we don't want to be bothered when we're here on date night. Restaurant.

Becky, The Hoss Lady: Got to keep that separate. I love that.

Corinne Crabtree: Exactly.

Becky, The Hoss Lady: Yeah. So speaking of organization and kitchens and things like that, of course the restaurant has its own little character. But for a weight loss conversation when I'm helping people with their kitchens and you know, how I teach, like a decluttering process is, you know, I recommend clearing out the space as best you can, putting anything back into the pantry without making sure it actually has a plant, that you're going to eat it or whatever. And what are your thoughts on when someone's starting a new diet or starting a new program or something like that? What are your thoughts about doing, like, a major pantry purge at the beginning of that new diet plan.

Corinne Crabtree: I don't think there's anything wrong with doing a pantry purge. It's how we've been taught to do one, is the real problem. And I don't mean like baskets and Bins talking about most people. They do a pantry purge because it's like, here's all the foods I no longer can eat, and if I have them in my house, I'm just going to eat my face off. So I'm getting rid of everything. And then we **** off our family because they're like, hey, where's the M and Ms? Where's my chips? Where's my favorite foods?

Becky, The Hoss Lady: Right?

Corinne Crabtree: Or we do it from this restrictive mindset, as if I can't be around these foods. And I get it. A lot of women feel that way, because for years, if you are around certain foods, if you have over eight, it will make sense in your brain that somehow the food is doing it to you. Food is the problem. Food is never the problem. I have yet to meet anyone who said, girl, I was good all day, sitting on my couch and suddenly the Twinkies came running out of the pantry and they just hopped in my mouth. Can I break twinkies legs? It's never the problem. It's always what we miss out on is no one's teaching us that if I'm eating food at night, food is not the problem. If I'm eating food at night, it's probably because I have a problem in my life that I'm not willing to face yet, or that it's going unrecognized. And so when I think about pantry purges, I tell people, I want you to organize your pantry in such a way that's going to make your weight loss life easier for you. So if you go in and it's easier to get a hold of better choices, and you have moved stuff that you use in emotional moments to where it's harder to get to them, it's not that you've solved your problem, it's that you've given yourself some space. That in the moment when it's time to make a decision, when you're stressed out and you're tired and you feel like the demands of the day are on you. If you're having to, say, climb a ladder to get your tips, then you have time as you're climbing the ladder, to think, do I really want to do this right? This do I want to be like, what's really going on for me? Because I teach, we have to address the root causes of why we eat. We can't just keep throwing away Oreos. Oreos aren't doing anything to us.

Becky, The Hoss Lady: Right?

Corinne Crabtree: But we do have to throw away unrealistic standards, not setting boundaries. We have to throw away people pleasing. Like, if we're going to purge something, we got to purge that **** out of our life so that at night, if we want to have an Oreo or two, we can like a normal person, we're not eating them to cope with our life.

Becky, The Hoss Lady: Yes, you're eating it on purpose?

Corinne Crabtree: Yes, with enjoyment. No one eats Oreos, a sleeve of Oreos after a bad day because they're ****** at their boss and their kids and will tell me, those Oreos were so delicious. Usually they hoover them down. They don't remember the taste. And when they're done, they feel like **** about themselves. And what they've done is they were like, well, I don't want to think horrible things about my children, so I'll eat a bunch of Oreos, so now I can just think horrible things about me.

Becky, The Hoss Lady: Oh, wow.

Corinne Crabtree: Yeah, we substitute that. We don't even understand how sometimes our eating is so much more deep. I can't tell you how many times when Logan was little, when he was like under a year old, I will be honest, he was on the spectrum. I did not know it, but he was a difficult baby. He cried all the ******* time. There was like, God helped me if the siren went off because he was like lit for an hour, screaming, crying. And I hated my life. Yeah, I thought I had ruined my life having a child. And that is so hard to deal with. Not so much that I felt bad, that I felt bad about my life. I thought something was wrong with me because I wasn't loving every minute of it. I thought something was wrong with me because I didn't like my child. And I would eat at night so that I could not like me because that felt normal. Not liking your child felt like I was going to hell.

Becky, The Hoss Lady: Yeah.

Corinne Crabtree: We have to think about when it comes to pantry purges. Every diet is going to tell you to clean out your pantry. I would even tell you, I would love for you to organize your pantry. I would love for you to make space for healthier foods. I would love for you to walk in and it feel like a respite and not just like a junk drawer. I want all that for you, but not at the expense of you doing it because you tear through your closet thinking, I'm so lazy, I'm so bad, I can't have these foods around me. Because from there, pantry purges are never going to work.

Becky, The Hoss Lady: I think that you really touched on a point of you're so down on yourself and you're calling yourself lazy and you're calling yourself whatever. And when I see women who come home and their house is just piles of paper and piles of laundry and piles of this and that and this and that and they don't have that structure like you were saying, the time, organization and making sure they put a plan down of what they're going to do, when they're going to do it. And they just try and go things like willy nilly. And they sit down at the end of the day and they're looking around at all their stuff and they just want to avoid it. They want to avoid life, so they do go to things like food to buffer and get out of their own mind and to have a kitchen or a pantry, having a plan in place for all of these things in your life. You're taking out so much of that exhaustion and so much of those issues that you're no longer tempted, I guess, to go straight to the pantry and grab the first thing you see, which is usually the oreos. Right.

Corinne Crabtree: I was just going to say one of the things I think is important, and this is just me, because we are very organized here at my house, but we haven't always been that way. And truth be told, if I didn't pay you to come do it for me, there's no way in hell we'd be this organized.

Becky, The Hoss Lady: Yeah.

Corinne Crabtree: Unless I was putting it on like I was making time and space to do it. And I'm a big believer in a little bit at a time, even when you came. Like, I want all of you to think about this. If I was going to have to do it all myself, I would do it just like I tackled 100 pounds of weight loss a small change at a time.

Becky, The Hoss Lady: Yes.

Corinne Crabtree: This week the goal is these three drawers, and next week it's like this half of my closet. Or just the shoes.

Becky, The Hoss Lady: Right.

Corinne Crabtree: I love the idea of breaking it down small. Because when you're tired and you're exhausted and your house is all crapped up, it's not because something's wrong with you. You are overextended. When you're tired, the last thing you want to do is come home and organize ****.

Becky, The Hoss Lady: Right.

Corinne Crabtree: I mean, unless you're Becky, who loves organizing. But most of us, we love the after. We don't love the process.

Becky, The Hoss Lady: Right.

Corinne Crabtree: We have to plug it in in small amounts.

Becky, The Hoss Lady: Yeah.

Corinne Crabtree: So I think it's just important that people realize that it's like, figure out these small places. Because I really do think when it comes to overeating in particular, your environment can trigger you.

Becky, The Hoss Lady: Absolutely.

Corinne Crabtree: That's why it's important, like with your closets, to be making sure you don't keep clothes in there that trigger you to feel bad. Anything that you can do in your environment that helps you be at peace, I would say start planning to get it done in small chunks.

Becky, The Hoss Lady: Yeah. And one of the things that I teach, like in June, for example, starting today, June 1, we're doing a monthly challenge where every single day you take 15 to 30 minutes. You don't get to go over that. And I give you a task and it doesn't matter what room you're going to do it in, but you go do that little task. Because tidy people do tiny things all day long. It's not a one and done situation. It's kind of like losing weight. You're not going to sustain a 40 pound weight loss if you did it drinking cucumber water for a week, you're going to need to make it a lifestyle. So I try and incorporate. If you do these little 1530 minutes things every day, you're not going to hate the process. And I feel like that ties into what you've taught us in no BS and the weight loss program. Because if you don't love the process, you're never going to continue and you're never going to sustain and maintain your weight loss. So I feel like so many people get the idea of a purge, either a pantry purge or a garage or anything, that it's going to be this hellacious, exhausting experience. And they feel like it has to be done in one day, and they