You know that feeling when you still love them, but your body is like… nope.

You’re not trying to be dramatic, you’re not trying to nitpick, but suddenly everything feels irritating, flat, or strangely off.

If you’ve ever thought, “Why am I getting the ick?” or “Where did the romance go?”, this episode is a deep exhale. It’s not about blaming your partner or making you feel broken. It’s about understanding what your nervous system is doing underneath it all.

In this episode of The Connection Podcast, Lauren Dry, Master Marriage Coach and founder of Rise into Regulation™, unpacks how resentment, nervous system overload, and feeling emotionally unsafe can quietly switch off desire and connection in modern relationships.

This is a conversation about what “the ick” can actually be pointing to, and how to start rebuilding safety and closeness without forcing romance or pretending things are fine.

You’ll hear us explore:

1. Why “the ick” can be a nervous system response, not a sign your relationship is doomed
2. How resentment builds when you’re carrying too much, or not saying what’s true
3. What happens when your body stops feeling safe, even if your mind still wants connection
4. The difference between a relationship problem and a dysregulation problem
5. Small, realistic ways to bring safety, softness, and romance back online over time

Resources & Links:

🌐 Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage

📲 Follow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dry

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Big love,

Lauren x