"A lot of learning comes through failure. That's been a good teacher for me."

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Learn a more about Ryan Rana here. If you want more from Ryan check out his podcast on EFT here, on Leadership here, or his video chat with former ISP guest Anabelle Bugatti Here. 

P.S. If you enjoyed this, make sure to check out this episode on How to Become a Supershrink. The two are thematically linked. 

Additional Notes and Resources for Ryan Rana

Ryanranatraining.com (Ryans personal website)

Arkansaseft.com (The branch of ICEEFT that Ryan does the most training through)

Thejoshuacenter.com (Ryan's private practice counseling center)

Two recent podcast interviews with Ryan:

Couples therapy couch – episode 116 Attuning to the Attachment Dilemma 

We heart Therapy – Attuning to the Attachment Dilemma

"One can imagine how revulsion at the physical signs of suffering, of disease, might have had a benefit in reducing contagion, but it comes at the cost of reducing our capacity for empathy and compassion, which can be very useful in building community."

-Paul Ekman "Emotions Revealed"

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P.S. If you enjoyed this check out my other short on John Gottman. He talks about sex and healthy relationships.

 Not only is it okay to make mistakes or to fail at something, but it's good in a way. If your not, if your not making mistakes and you're not failing your not growing."

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 Learn a more about Josh here Check out Josh's book here

Also, check out https://theartoflearningproject.org/

P.S. If you enjoyed this, make sure to check out this episode on How to Become a Supershrink. The two are thematically linked. 

My research findings were not unique. The late sex therapist Bernie Zilbergeld studied 100 couples...to [his] surprise, his overwhelming finding was the unimportance of technique. What [mattered?] The sexually active partners had a closer friendship and were committed to making sex a priority.  

-John Gottman "What Makes Love Last"

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Check out more about Gottman's Affair Recovery Model here. 

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P.S. If you enjoyed this check out my other review on what DOES make therapist better here.

 The Charismatic {Speakers}: This is the kind of person who spends all their time talking. Lecturing. Weaving shimmering webs of ideas into the air. They’re often quite eloquent and charismatic; listening to them can be great fun. Which is precisely the problem — because in the end, passively listening to someone talk is a really inefficient way to learn. We learn by doing, exploring, discovering for ourselves. By asking questions, interacting, engaging with ideas. (Another reason why Socratic method works so well.)

-Dan Coyle "A Field Guide to Avoiding Toxic Teachers/Coaches"

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Check out what actually makes teachers good here. 

Watch Perel's lecture HERE

P.S. If you enjoyed this check out my other review on what DOES make therapist better here.

"Attunement and responsiveness are hot topics, and the subject of a fair bit of research, in psychotherapy. The former refers to a therapist’s ability to pick up on the nuances of interactions with clients...The latter concept, responsiveness, refers to doing the right thing at the right time, adjusting interventions on the fly to fit the unique and evolving circumstances of the client and therapeutic interactions"

-Scott Miller and Brooke Mathewes

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Read the article Meet You in McGinnis Meadow HERE

Watch Monte Roberts HERE

Check out what Micheal Yapko learned from Elephant trainers HERE. 

P.S. If you enjoyed this check out my interview with Scott Miller.

Don't get into a power battle, but if you do get into a power battle get back out of it. What I realized is there's not a rule that says once you're in one you have to stay in it. A lot of people feel like once they start down that path they have to stick it out to the bitter end... and it turns out that's just not true.

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Watch on YouTube here: https://youtu.be/mI0cZlqQs-A

Find Mark online here: https://markandreas.com/

Purchase his book here

Sign up for Metaphors of Movement here.

P.S. If you enjoyed this episode, check out my conversation with Connirae Andreas. She's one of the pioneers in the field of NLP. 

"The most important thing of any storytelling is you can't be the hero of your own stories. Nobody wants me to stand on stage for 30 minutes and talk about what a great person I am. So if anything heroic happens in my stories, generally I'm telling about someone else doing it or I'm watching someone else do the heroic act."

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Find Bil online here:https://www.leppstorytelling.com/

Check out his YouTube page here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5cOv2zJwKA0

P.S. If you enjoyed this episode, check out my conversation with Jeff Zeig. He talks about the connection between the arts and therapy

About a month ago a friend and fellow therapist asked me to give a presentation to his chapter of GAMFT. At first I didn't know what to present on, then it dawned on me. Since day 1 I've been trying to follow in the footsteps of Milton Erickson. While my journey has been roundabout to say the least, what it's left me with is one question "how do you become a better therapist?" As I collected my thoughts I realized I had answered that question. I entitled the presentation So you want to be a Supershrink?: the search for informed simplicity. Suprsingly the answers to becoming better had nothing to do with what model you use or what theory you expose. So how do you do it? Listen and find out. 

If you have any questions, or like this presentation brought to you, free to reach out: [email protected] 

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"For me humility is super important. Humility, I think a lot of people think, means humbling yourself and bringing yourself down, But it's also about bringing yourself up. it's about right sizing where you fit." 

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Contact Jesse at: [email protected]

Learn about the ABFT here. 

P.S. If you enjoyed this episode, check out my conversation with Debbie Pridemore. She's another attachment clinician.