(Chapters 4–5)

This is the episode about what it costs to grow up when no one tells you that you’re enough — and what happens when one person finally does.

Open with Ken transferring from his small country school to the big Holland Christian school in sixth grade. He called himself “scared of his own shadow.” A poor farm kid who didn’t even have indoor plumbing yet — too embarrassed to invite anyone home. A senior girl mocked him for wearing the same shirt two days in a row and he wanted to crawl into a hole.

Tell the story of his father honestly, the way the book does — John Jipping was a devout Christian, a hard worker, a man who could strike up a conversation with anyone. But at home, every idea Ken had was knocked down. He never felt smart enough or good enough. The book says it plainly: Ken believed his dad thought he wasn’t very smart.

So he acted out. Walk through the pranks: the Duz soap incident, the seven super balls bouncing off the blackboard, the fishing line strung across the study hall to trip the teacher, the typewriter roller rigged to humiliate the “old maid” — and then fixed before she could prove it. The spiked apple cider. The Ex-Lax chocolate at senior initiation, which permanently ended that tradition.

Then the story that changed everything: Dale Bierema, Ken’s close friend, killed when his car was hit by a train on the way to a basketball game. The night before, Ken had turned down the invitation to go to the movies with him. He went home and lay on his parents’ bed and cried out, “Lord, why him and not me?” He made a vow that day — he’s been to a movie theater fewer than ten times in his life since.

And then: the last line of the chapter. “What really made the difference? A gal by the name of Joyce Zwiers.” Let that land before you move on.