No man wakes up one morning and decides to stop fancying his wife. It happens by a decision neither of you remember making.
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Dr Lee Baucom has spent thirty years working with couples and is the author of Save the Marriage.
Jonnie bought that programme during his own divorce, ten years ago, and says it changed how he thinks about relationships to this day. They talk about the relationships that aren't broken, just quiet, and what it takes for one man to bring one back to life without waiting for permission.
WHY THIS MATTERS
Nobody arrives at the end of a marriage. Everybody drifts there, one benign decision at a time, and most men don't notice until the distance is too wide to talk across. Lee names the exact slope, and what a man can do about it on his own.
HIGH VALUE MOMENTS
02:38 What Jonnie learned about himself after his divorce
04:41 Good people having bad relationships
08:40 Save the Marriage, and the app that came before it
10:24 The little things that keep love alive
11:29 How couples hit the pause button
14:38 Why "we really love each other" doesn't beat the statistics
15:21 Treating the symptoms instead of the disconnection
17:26 The three levels of connection: physical, emotional, spiritual
20:16 Why the movie stops at happily ever after
24:21 The telltale signs of the pause phase
25:49 Setting the rules early: no eye rolls, no silent moods
30:54 Anger is a secondary emotion
32:29 Why you're more gracious with strangers than your wife
33:34 The disses: from disinterest to disdain
36:30 What constant rejection does to a man
40:04 When the relationship strains, everything strains
45:09 Putting your whole life on one relationship
47:18 Relationship before results
49:37 The three Cs: connect, change, create
50:45 Invitational connection, not date night
52:40 The moment his girlfriend said "believe"
55:49 Breaking up with love
CONNECT WITH LEE
If your marriage is in crisis: https://savethemarriage.comIf you're stuck and drifting that way:
https://unpauseyourmarriage.com
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