The Jonnie Jensen Show

You're working this hard for your family. So why does she feel like she's lost you?

Not sure where your marriage is drifting while you're busy providing? The Lifestyle MOT shows you in three minutes. https://highvaluemanproject.com/score

Marty Hofmann is a property investor, ultrarunner, father of six and author of Kill Complacency. Sixteen or seventeen years into his marriage, his wife told him she was thinking of leaving. He'd been doing everything a provider is supposed to do. It wasn't what she needed.

This one is for the dad who's grafting for his family and quietly losing touch with them, and it's about what turns it round before the walk happens to you.

WHY THIS MATTERSDrift doesn't announce itself. By the time she says it out loud, she's usually been feeling it for years. Hear this before your version of that conversation, not after it.

HIGH VALUE MOMENTS03:09 The Importance of Family Values11:44 Lessons from Upbringing and Parenting16:27 The Kill Complacency Message20:30 Building Success Through Grit and Resilience25:10 The Wake-Up Call: Realizing Relationship Needs30:29 Balancing Work and Family Life33:35 The Journey of Writing a Book37:06 The Seven F's: A Framework for Life41:04 The Importance of Mentorship and Community43:45 Faith as an Anchor in Life

CONNECT WITH MARTYBook: https://www.killcomplacency.com/book/

The 7F assessment and the Seasons of Life assessment: https://killcomplacency.comInstagram: https://instagram.com/martyhofmann1LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/martyhofmann

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Suicide Support: from 43:45 Marty talks about a suicide attempt as a teenager. If anything here brings up something for you, talk to someone. UK: Samaritans 116 123. US: call or text 988.

Difficult conversations get avoided but the longer you put them off the more they drag you down.

Take marriage or relationships. She already knows something's off. You can bring it up on your terms, or wait for life to bring it up for you.

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In this solo episode, Jonnie Jensen gets into the conversations men avoid with the people closest to them, about money, sex, the health of the relationship or the future of the business, and why putting them off makes them worse, not better. He shares how he sat on the money pressure himself this summer, what Jo said when it finally came out, and a practical way to raise a hard subject so it lands as an invitation rather than an ambush. For any man who has been rehearsing something in his head for longer than he'd like to admit.

WHY THIS MATTERS

Every conversation you dodge teaches your brain it's dangerous, and the people around you feel the distance long before you say a word. Leave it long enough and circumstances will force it for you, on worse terms.

HIGH VALUE MOMENTS

02:11 Understanding the Consequences of Avoidance05:07 Personal Experiences with Avoidance08:05 Strategies for Initiating Tough Talks10:49 Creating Win-Win Conversations

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You were raised to be the nice guy.

Nice gets you taken advantage of at work, at home and by your own kids. This isn't about being an arsehole. It's about being clear enough that people know you could be one.

Rebuilding after divorce, or just tired of being the pushover at home? I created the Lifestyle MOT to show you exactly where to start. 3 mins, 15 simple questions, and you get a personal review back from me: https://highvaluemanproject.com/score

Danny M Goldberg has spent seventeen years training Fortune 500 companies and government agencies to have difficult conversations, and wrote A Little Bit of A$$hole after realising he'd lost his own voice at home. This one is for the man who says yes when he means no, explains every decision, and then wonders why he's not taken seriously by his partner, his team or his kids. Jonnie and Danny talk through divorce, dating again with your eyes open, and why nice men don't avoid the row, they postpone it until it blows.

WHY THIS MATTERS

The cost of nice builds up quietly. The boss who asks too much, the partner who stops seeing you as the man she fell for, the teenager who learns your no means "ask again later". This hour gives you the language to set the line early, before you end up drawing it in the middle of a blow-up.

HIGH VALUE MOMENTS

08:21 Getting divorced is awful. Being divorced is great.16:55 Why clarity in your fifties makes you more attractive, at home and in business21:17 "Be nice," they said. The bullies loved it.25:53 Set the expectation before you need the row29:09 Why second marriages repeat the first33:41 "Would you like to come up to this bar with me?"39:47 The 24-hour challenge44:14 Toxic people are toxic. Masculinity isn't.53:01 How to start something without betting the house

CONNECT WITH DANNY M GOLDBERG

Website: https://dannymgoldberg.com/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dannymgoldbergA Little Bit of A$$hole: https://littlebitahole.comOther books: https://www.amazon.com/Danny-Goldberg/e/B00LVAS23A

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Where are you being nice when you should be clear? 3 mins, 15 simple questions, and you get a personal review back from me: https://highvaluemanproject.com/score

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Fourteen weeks to December...I'm not saying the C word! Many men will coast through, arrive in December knackered and slightly disappointed, and then promise themselves something on the 1st of January.

FORGE starts in October. Eight weeks, small group, sixteen men, finishing before December even starts. This episode is the argument, FORGE is how it actually happens: https://live.highvaluemanproject.com/forge

September to December is the most workable stretch in the calendar and it is the one most men write off.

In this solo episode Jonnie makes the case for the fourteen week run: why the conditions in September beat the conditions in January, why the pressure a man feels about a busy autumn is almost always anticipated rather than real, and what it takes to arrive at the 20th of December with nothing hanging over him.

He is open that this time of year does his head in too, and uses his own September, two kids out every night, a Hyrox at the end of October, to show what handling it badly looks like before turning it into something a man can use.

WHY THIS MATTERS

A resolution has no scoreboard. It runs to nothing and dies quietly in February, which is why most men have had the same January more than once. Christmas is a real date.

The men who treat these fourteen weeks as a deadline rather than a wind down arrive at it with something to celebrate instead of something to apologise for, and their families get a December with a man in it rather than a man catching up.

HIGH VALUE MOMENTS

03:19 Why September Cranks Me Up Every Year

05:58 The Pressure Is Not Real. It's Anticipated.

09:21 Don't Make Her Everything

11:50 Work Back From Christmas Day

14:48 Protect December

FORGE STARTS IN OCTOBER

Eight weeks, small group, sixteen men. It runs through October and November, which means the work is finished before December even starts. Weekly 90 minute group calls, the FIRE CODE tracker, a cohort WhatsApp group, and accountability that starts the day you join rather than the day the sessions do.

Fourteen weeks. Don't spend them on your own.

https://live.highvaluemanproject.com/forge

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Send this to the mate who tells you every single January that this year is his year. He has told you three times. Send it now and save him the twelve months.

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You saved for it. You booked it. You told everyone it was going to be brilliant. That's exactly why it turned into a row by day three. Do not fall into the holiday pressure trap.

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Jonnie is back from ten days in France with his two kids and one of their mates, and this episode is the honest version of how a family holiday actually goes well.

Not the destination, not the budget, not the itinerary. The pressure a man loads onto the trip before he has even left the house, and what happens to his wife and kids when reality does not match the picture in his head.

He shares what he does before he packs the boot, on the drive, at the dinner table and in the moments he deliberately steps back to catch.

WHY THIS MATTERS

For most men the holiday is the one stretch of the year his family gets all of him, and he arrives too loaded to give it. What he wanted to be the best fortnight of the year becomes the one everyone remembers for the wrong reasons. The cost is not a wasted week. It is another year of his kids and his partner learning what he is like under pressure.

HIGH VALUE MOMENTS

01:08 Why Holidays Go Wrong06:29 Plan Less, Enjoy More11:56 Make Mealtimes Matter14:18 Balance Family Time and Freedom15:58 Keep Your Healthy Habits17:11 Make Time for Your Relationship19:37 Choose Peace, Fun and Lasting Memories

YOUR HIGH VALUE MAN SCORE

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Send this to the mate whose holiday stories always include a drama or a row! He will hate it and then he will thank you.

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You never decided to let your health go. You just kept spending it, because it kept paying out. It stops paying out at about 45.

Find out where you're leaking energy, focus and drive. Take your free HVM Score: https://highvaluemanproject.com/score

Oliver Anwar is an executive health coach working with entrepreneurs and senior executives around the world, based in Dubai. Eight years ago he was broke and filling vending machines in central London at 4am. He builds his coaching around blood work rather than the scales, and he is blunt about what men are getting wrong before they reach for TRT or a weight loss jab. He and Jonnie get into the crisis that arrives at 40 to 45, why identity beats discipline, and what a man can actually do about it starting tomorrow.

WHY THIS MATTERS

The men in this conversation are not unwell. They are successful, capable, and quietly running on a baseline nobody has ever measured. The bill for that lands somewhere between 40 and 50, usually in a doctor's room, and by then the options are worse and the price is higher. Nothing in this episode takes more than ten minutes a day to start.

HIGH VALUE MOMENTS

06:47 The crisis that lands at 40 to 4514:58 I am a healthy person: identity beats dieting22:51 Shortcuts, jabs, and the blood test your GP isn't doing28:26 You service the car and ignore the body34:17 Ten minutes a day, and the protein you're not eating40:41 Healthy masculinity, polarity, and attracting what you are

CONNECT WITH OLIVER

Fitness For Entrepreneurs: https://fitnessforentrepreneurs.comLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/theoliveranwarYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@theoliveranwar

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No man wakes up one morning and decides to stop fancying his wife. It happens by a decision neither of you remember making.

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Dr Lee Baucom has spent thirty years working with couples and is the author of Save the Marriage.

Jonnie bought that programme during his own divorce, ten years ago, and says it changed how he thinks about relationships to this day. They talk about the relationships that aren't broken, just quiet, and what it takes for one man to bring one back to life without waiting for permission.

WHY THIS MATTERS

Nobody arrives at the end of a marriage. Everybody drifts there, one benign decision at a time, and most men don't notice until the distance is too wide to talk across. Lee names the exact slope, and what a man can do about it on his own.

HIGH VALUE MOMENTS

02:38 What Jonnie learned about himself after his divorce

04:41 Good people having bad relationships

08:40 Save the Marriage, and the app that came before it

10:24 The little things that keep love alive

11:29 How couples hit the pause button

14:38 Why "we really love each other" doesn't beat the statistics

15:21 Treating the symptoms instead of the disconnection

17:26 The three levels of connection: physical, emotional, spiritual

20:16 Why the movie stops at happily ever after

24:21 The telltale signs of the pause phase

25:49 Setting the rules early: no eye rolls, no silent moods

30:54 Anger is a secondary emotion

32:29 Why you're more gracious with strangers than your wife

33:34 The disses: from disinterest to disdain

36:30 What constant rejection does to a man

40:04 When the relationship strains, everything strains

45:09 Putting your whole life on one relationship

47:18 Relationship before results

49:37 The three Cs: connect, change, create

50:45 Invitational connection, not date night

52:40 The moment his girlfriend said "believe"

55:49 Breaking up with love

CONNECT WITH LEE

If your marriage is in crisis: https://savethemarriage.comIf you're stuck and drifting that way:

https://unpauseyourmarriage.com

YOUR HIGH VALUE MAN SCORE

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A clear mind gets clear results. The reason this is true is much more scientific than most men believe. If you think the Law of Attraction is a load of crap then you may be missing out on the basic principles of "you get what you think about most of the time". This episode is why a clear mind matters and how to fix it.

Find out where your thinking is clear and where it's cluttered. The free HVM Score takes two minutes: https://highvaluemanproject.com/score

Jonnie Jensen breaks down the law of attraction in real-world terms — not crystals and vision boards, but full body alignment: thoughts, actions and chemistry all pointing in the same direction. Why desire alone isn't enough. Why the doubt underneath is the thought that's actually running the show. And the simple exercise that clears the interference so you can get after what you actually want.

WHY THIS MATTERS

Most men are working hard and going in circles. Not because they lack effort or a plan, but because their doubts are louder than their desire — even when they can't hear them. This episode names that and gives you a way out.

HIGH VALUE MOMENTS

00:00 The Law of Attraction for Men: Alignment, Not Wishful Thinking

01:29 Who the High Value Man Framework Is For

03:48 Get Clear on What You Want

06:22 How Doubt Undermines Your Goals

08:30 The Desire vs. Doubt Exercise

10:38 Why Your Energy Has to Match Your Intention

11:08 The Laser Pointer Test for Focus

11:33 Clear Doubt and Build Momentum

YOUR HIGH VALUE MAN SCORE

Find out where your thinking is clear and where it's cluttered. The free HVM Score takes two minutes and shows you exactly where you're winning and where you're losing ground across focus, impact, relationships and energy.https://highvaluemanproject.com/score

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Divorce does not end your life. It simply ends your marriage. This episode breaks down how to get back on your feet in less time, with fewer mistakes, and more fun.

Find out where you're at in the rebuild. The free High Value Man Scorecard takes two minutes and shows you exactly where to focus first: https://highvaluemanproject.com/score

Too many men walk out of a marriage and spend the next few years carrying it with them. In this episode, Jonnie Jensen breaks down the high value man route through divorce and rebuild: the six stages of grief and why they don't go in order, the Fab Four support structure, the soul cutting exercise, and how to use the 3XC framework to build something better on the other side.

WHY THIS MATTERS

Divorce doesn't take men down. The way men respond to divorce takes them down. There's a route through this that's faster, cleaner, and results in a better man on the other side. This episode is that route.

HIGH VALUE MOMENTS

00:00 Introduction — Divorce Doesn't End Your Life07:15 The Six Stages of Grief (And Why They Don't Go in Order)14:47 Clarity: Who Are You When She's Not in the Picture?21:34 The Fab Four — Your Divorce Support Team23:04 The Soul Cutting Exercise: How to Actually Let Her Go28:27 Commitment: Minimum Viable Output and Building the New Chapter

YOUR HIGH VALUE MAN SCORE

Find out where you're at in the rebuild. The free HVM Score takes two minutes and shows you exactly where you're winning and where you're losing ground across focus, impact, relationships and energy.https://highvaluemanproject.com/score

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If Nick hadn't have been training for a marathon, burnout would have killed him. And he was only 28 at the time! Now 5 years later he sold that business and is growing a second. This is a powerful Comeback Kings episode that will move, motivate and make you laugh.

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Nick Medlock is 33. He built an outstanding-rated care company from the ground up alongside his mum, sold it when his health gave him no other choice, and is now building again. Jonnie Jensen talks to him about what happens when the drive that makes a man successful becomes the thing that nearly destroys him.

WHY THIS MATTERS

A man who can't stop isn't strong. He's running on empty and calling it dedication. Nick's story names where that road ends, and what the way back looks like.

HIGH VALUE MOMENTS

02:12 Nick's Upbringing and Values05:57 The Importance of Friendships07:55 Career Beginnings and Family Business10:09 Challenges in Adult Care13:47 Burnout and Mental Health Awareness20:12 Realisations and Changes in Life24:22 The Struggle and Realisation25:53 Transitioning from Family Business29:47 Navigating the Sale of a Business30:55 New Beginnings and Business Ventures34:11 Building Trust in Partnerships38:44 Family Values and Parenting Goals

CONNECT WITH NICK

Blue Circle Surveyors: https://www.bluecirclesurveyors.co.ukLinkedIn: Nick Medlock

DISCOVER YOUR HIGH VALUE MAN SCORE

The free HVM Scorecard takes two minutes and shows you exactly where you're winning and where you're losing ground across focus, impact, relationships and energy.https://highvaluemanproject.com/score

BOOK A TURBO CALL

Take the scorecard, then book a call with Jonnie to go through your results. If working together is right for you, that's where it starts.https://highvaluemanproject.com/turbocall

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