Your child is anxious. It may not despite your involvement, but maybe in part because of it. Because the pattern of when your energy changes has been teaching them something, and they drew the obvious conclusion. This episode gives you one audit, one AI move, and one moment in the car ride home that starts contradicting the model.

This episode draws in part on research in:

• Contingent regard in parent-child relationships (Assor, Roth & Deci, 2004)
• Challenges to well-being among children of high-achieving families (Luthar & Latendresse, 2005)
• Parental involvement and children's self-regulation (Grolnick & Ryan, 1989)
• Contingent self-worth and its psychological costs (Crocker & Park, 2004)