This week on The Labia Lounge pod, I sit down with Conor and Xander, from Human Love Quest—a live, on-stage dating show! HLQ is a potent antidote to the monotony (and, let's face it, dehumanisation) of dating apps! We dive into the world of “dating in the wild,” exploring how to cultivate confidence, approach connections in real life, and maybe even find your own meet-cute moment.

Conor and Xander pull back the curtain on what it’s really like to host their inclusive, hilarious, and surprisingly wholesome dating show, plus, we get real about how the pandemic, tech, and social shifts have transformed how we socialize and search for love in 2025.

You’ll hear confessions about awkward early sex ed (shoutout to Harold the Giraffe), real-talk about social anxiety and dating app fatigue, and practical tips on how to put yourself out there without feeling like a creep—or a walking rejection waiting to happen.

Highlights include:

• The inspo behind Human Love Quest and what actually happens at their events
• Why we’re more anxious, less socially skilled, and lonelier than ever—and how live dating events and taking some risks with new connections IRL can bridge the gap
• Fun (and cringe) stories from the "Ahoy There" love notes barrel
• Practical, modern advice for both men and women to make authentic connections in person, even if it’s terrifying!
• The reality of dating apps—what they help with, what they mess up, and how much they’re monetising our loneliness

If you’re craving authentic connection, ready to ditch the apps (at least for a night), or just want to laugh and learn about love in the modern age, this episode is for you. AND I'd highly recommend attending a HLQ event at your earliest convenience - it's good shit!

Plus you can expect all the usual antics and hilarious, vulnerable n' relatable personal stories and signature segments that you've come to know and love here in The Labia Lounge!

Follow HLQ: https://www.instagram.com/humanlovequest?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==

• Human Love Quest info & sign-up

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This week in The Labia Lounge we pulled up a clit cushion and wrapped our hands around a mug of hot cho-cho for an epic chat about all things relationships.

My guest was Zach Brittle, host of Marriage Therapy Radio and the author of the bestselling relationship guide The Relationship Alphabet and The Marriage Therapy Journal.

Zach shared loads of helpful insights and strategies for maintaining a healthy, loving, and intimate relationship, and we explored the common pitfalls of relationships, the thing that all good relationships share, and what we can be doing to get out of a rut or avoid relationship disaster in the long term!

You can check out Zach/s work and podcast here: https://marriagetherapyradio.com/

Plus you can expect all the usual antics and hilarious, vulnerable n' relatable personal stories and signature segments that you've come to know and love here in The Labia Lounge!

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In this juicy, juicy (and loooong) episode of The Labia Lounge I got to chat with some seriously awesome folk while they attended Melbourne's largest and most deluxe play parties at Melbourne Pavilion. Virtue & Vice's 'Boudoir' event is a smorgasbord of sensory delights and performances and slowly is becoming a favourite haunt of The Lab Lounge! I've done a few episodes in the past about these amazing events and interviewed not only party goers, but the creator/organiser of V&V events for the pod. The community is a thriving, warm and welcoming bunch of people, so enjoy listening to them let us in on what they love about the lifestyle, tell stories of their first ever sex party experiences, and chat about their Fucket Lists!

Check out Virtue & Vice's upcoming events here: https://www.virtueandvice.com.au/

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This week in The Labia Lounge I got to have an incredible and in-depth conversation with Shael Norris, founding executive director of SafeBAE—the only US national survivor-founded, youth-led organization working to prevent sexual violence among teens.

Shael shares her journey from working in theatre on the iconic Vagina Monologues to three decades of hands-on activism, empowering young people to break cycles of abuse in their schools and communities. She gives us a run down on the birth of SafeBAE, its involvement in creating peer-to-peer resources, and the importance of centering survivors’ experiences in both healing and systemic change.

We explore:

• Why true consent culture starts before university, and how art and activism can powerfully intersect
• How rape culture is normalised, and what it really looks like among teenagers
• The origins and impact of SafeBAE’s acclaimed prevention curriculum and policy toolkits
• Digital safety: navigating nudes, cyberbullying, and bystander intervention
• Innovative approaches that seek accountability—not just punishment—for young perpetrators, and support for those harmed
• The importance of embedding consent education across all subjects, not just health class
• What’s missing from traditional sex ed, and why pleasure, boundaries, and emotional skills matter
• Simple, actionable ways parents, teachers, and students alike can shift the culture—starting now with accessible strategies and suggestions

Shael also gets real about the ongoing struggle for funding sexual violence prevention in the US, the global public health crisis of teen sexual assault, and the life-or-death stakes of this work.

Tune in for hard truths, goosebump moments, and a dose of hope. Whether you’re a student, educator, parent or anyone who cares about safer schools and happier lives, this conversation is for you.

Plus you can expect all the usual antics and hilarious, vulnerable n' relatable personal stories and signature segments that you've come to know and love here in The Labia Lounge!

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Resources & Links:

• SafeBAE website & free resources
• Audrie & Daisy documentary
• Man Cave
• Teach Us Consent

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In this extra special, extra juicy episode you're treated to a smorgasbord of stories from real people about their first maz experiences. We hear some pretty beautiful and entertaining stories - some quite moving, some quite shocking, some quite funny and all very human and raw. Just how we like it here in The Labia Lounge!

Big shout outs to everyone who contributed and had the courage and openness to tell their story in this bumper episode! If you've got a story that you didn't get to share in this episode, send it in for the follow up Part 2 or for a future feature in the regular TMI segment!

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Labial Lovers, buckle up! This week, I welcome back the one-and-only Justine Ang Fonte, award-winning sex educator and labial legend from @Goodbyes, for a juicy, tell-all episode about her wild ride through the fertility industry.

Ever wondered if egg freezing is a golden ticket or just an empty promise of peace of mind and future babies? Why are fertility clinics minting cash while future mamas are left in the dark? What don’t they tell you about the efficacy of the process and the actual likelihood that it'll result in parenthood?

Plus:

• How the “insurance-policy” promises of egg freezing can backfire HARD

• The brutal physical, emotional, and financial toll of the baby making biz

• Social stigma, shaming trolls, and why people have so many opinions about your ovaries

• How to make the biggest decision of your life (baby or new kitchen?!)

And you can expect all the usual antics and hilarious, vulnerable n' relatable personal stories and signature segments that you've come to know and love here in The Labia Lounge!

Check out Justine's work here: justinefonte.com

@imjustineaf

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Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/

Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainings

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This week on The Labia Lounge I got to chat with Micah Stover - therapist, educator and author of Healing Psychedelics.

This episode will completely CHANGE the way you think about psychedelics, trauma recovery, and owning your sexual power.

🔥What’s REALLY behind the psychedelic renaissance? (Hint: It’s NOT just Woodstock nostalgia.)

🔥How can mushrooms, MDMA and more actually help you heal sexual trauma—and maybe even unlock your FIRST orgasm? (Yep, you read that right.)

🔥Are we losing ancient wisdom and risking cultural appropriation in the current “trendy” psychedelic boom?

🔥Why does slowing down (in bed & in life!) matter SO much for pleasure and healing?

🔥What’s the risk most people don’t know about getting high without proper ceremony, preparation or integration?

Plus some practical advice for curious souls (or your mum!) who want to dip a toe SAFELY into these healing waters.

We also discuss Micah's near death birthing experience, the risks and the possible pitfalls of these medicines and how to mitigate risks as much as possible, Micah's advocacy and education around harm reduction in the psychedelic assisted therapy space, and the training involved to become a therapist who facilitates this work.

Micah speaks so eloquently and with such nuance about such a misunderstood and stigmatized topic here, and there's so much gold in this interview!

Her take on the matriarchal rising and shared corporeality between women and the earth are beautifully explored in her work and this chat delves into some really cool areas that I think you'll love!

Plus you can expect all the usual antics and hilarious, vulnerable n' relatable personal stories and signature segments that you've come to know and love here in The Labia Lounge!

Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my clit if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy!

Check out Micah's work here: https://www.micahstoverconsulting.com

https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/healing-psychedelics-micah-stover/1144608744

IG: @micahsugarfoot

And join the FB group below for the discount code for her book and courses!

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This week in The Labia Lounge I got to chat with Clementine Morrigan, writer, activist and literary punk who doesn't shy away from talking about the controversial stuff!

We tackle a couple of topics rarely given the nuance they deserve: from surviving childhood sexual abuse and incest, to living through the crushing reality of cancel culture and online shaming.

Clementine shares her personal journey of healing complex trauma, the ways cancel culture impacts already marginalized survivors, and the intersection between trauma, victim-blaming, and social exile. We discuss the cycles of violence and scapegoating in queer and activist communities, the politics of trauma, and the urgent need for compassionate, non-punitive approaches to justice.

Trigger warning: Topics include childhood sexual abuse, trauma, social ostracization, and sexual violence. Please take care when listening.

Check out Clementine's podcast and books here: https://www.clementinemorrigan.com/ https://www.instagram.com/clementinemorrigan https://www.fuckingcancelled.com/

Plus you can expect all the usual antics and hilarious, vulnerable n' relatable personal stories and signature segments that you've come to know and love here in The Labia Lounge!

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In this informal chat with a friend of mine, I asked for the worst dating stories and sexual experiences she had to dish, and we discussed.

From titty slapping and pussy biting, to spiritual fuckboys howling and growling their way to orgasm while telling us to "just let go and be free", we cover all sorts of ground in this eppy, including period sex and what to do when faced with erectile challenges.

The audio quality isn't ideal in this one as it was an informal chat without my usual set up. But hopefully you're entertained and also find some food for thought in the deeper discussions that these funny and relatable stories elicit.

Enjoy!

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This week in The Labia Lounge I invited Jessa Zimmerman back for round two!

We're tackling a topic every one of us will face: how to adapt and thrive in our intimate lives as we navigate aging, sexual dysfunction, illness, and all the curveballs our bodies and relationships can throw our way. With Jessa’s decades of clinical experience you’ll hear practical tips for reframing expectations, normalizing shifts in libido and desire, grieving the changes, and, most importantly, finding opportunity and pleasure in the new normal.

Whether you or someone you love is experiencing physiological shifts, relationship pressure, or just the natural ebbs and flows that come with long-term connection, this episode offers validation, guidance, and a much-needed reminder that great sex and intimacy are absolutely possible at every stage of life—sometimes, it just takes a little reinvention.

So buckle up, labial legends. You’re about to get the sex ed you never had, sprinkled with plenty of laughs and the wisdom you need to take your pleasure, connection, and self-compassion to the next level.

Plus you can expect all the usual antics and hilarious, vulnerable n' relatable personal stories and signature segments that you've come to know and love here in The Labia Lounge!

Check out Jessa's work here: www.intimacywithease.com

www.desirediscrepancy.com

Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my clit if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy!

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Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainings

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Or support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagraf

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