Choking during sex is now so normalised among teenagers that most of them don't even clock it as a red flag. That's the world we're navigating — and in this episode, I sat down with the Shel and Drew from SafeBAE to talk about how we actually help young people find their way through it.

We got into the manosphere, the algorithm, porn, and why the US is so far behind places like Australia and the UK when it comes to funding real sex ed. And we talked about SafeBAE's new tool, Vibe Check — a choose-your-own-adventure style resource where young people can anonymously reflect on consent, harm, accountability, and repair. No judgment, no adults breathing down their neck. Just a useful tool built for the way teens actually think and communicate.

Plus you can expect all the usual antics and hilarious, vulnerable n' relatable personal stories and signature segments that you've come to know and love here in The Labia Lounge!

Try out Safe BAE's tool Vibe Check here: https://checkyourvibe.org/

And explore SafeBAE's other incredible work and resources here: https://www.safebae.org/

Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my clit if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy!

*** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/

Try out Captain Spice's sticky chai here: https://www.captainspice.com.au/

Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/

Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainings

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TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc

And on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialounge

Or support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagraf

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This week in The Labia Lounge I interviewed the incredibly impressive Jiabao Li.

Jiabao Li is an artist, inventor, and professor whose work explores more-than-human ecologies, feminist biotech, multispecies intelligence, and how technology reshapes perception. Her work has been exhibited at MoMA, Ars Electronica, the Venice Architecture Biennale, Exploratorium, and The Contemporary Austin. Her TED Talk uncovered how technology mediates the way we perceive reality, and she was named Forbes China 30 Under 30. I've never been so blown away by someone's body of work and the way their mind works more than I am with this woman!

She's growing clitoris's in the lab from her own menstrual blood, a heart for her mother who has heart disease, creating the most prolific body of work and art I've literally ever seen, and pioneering so many epic projects at the intersection between bio-tech, nature, art, and activism. We cover everything from hypo-sex, to growing up in China as a girl during the one child policy times, and her approach to everything she does with a unique and creative feminism lens.

This chat is rich and fascinating. Enjoy

***Correction of the stats cited in this interview: China recorded more than 200 million abortions linked to one child policy. Not 2 million***

Check out her work here: https://www.jiabaoli.org/

https://www.jiabaoli.org/mom

Use code LABIA to get a special discount at https://wisteriahealth.org/

Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my clit if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy!

Plus you can expect all the usual antics and hilarious, vulnerable n' relatable personal stories and signature segments that you've come to know and love here in The Labia Lounge!

*** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/

Try out Captain Spice's sticky chai here: https://www.captainspice.com.au/

Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/

Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainings

And chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/

AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc

And on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialounge

Or support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagraf

Or at my Patreon here: https://patreon.com/freyagraf?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink

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This week in The Labia Lounge I have Clementine Morrigan back on for our second episode together!

What an epic human, honestly. This chat didn't disappoint and was just as enlightening, nuanced, and compassionate as the first one. Check out our other episode if you haven't already. It's about incest, childhood sexual abuse, and cancel culture.

This time we spoke about the challenges and pitfalls of dating non-monogamously. Clementine has had over a decade of experience being polyamourous and dating multiple people long-term. She's written zines and articles about this, and has an upcoming book being released in 2027 about this exact topic. How to do poly relating without it feeling like you're literally dying. Especially if you've got a background of trauma and attachment wounds that make it even more difficult to be non-monogamous!

This is a really insightful episode with so much value in it for those who know that monogamy isn't necessarily for them but that find it a struggle to manage poly dynamics and all the challenging and uncomfortable reactions that arise as a result.

Pre-order the book here: https://microcosmpublishing.com/catalog/books/35447?srsltid=AfmBOoqWIHhGKtZVHl91P2kkksVZDa0rUhjAXJhUtkESVZ32va1InIDk

Check out Clementine's work here: clementinemorrigan.com

Plus you can expect all the usual antics and hilarious, vulnerable n' relatable personal stories and signature segments that you've come to know and love here in The Labia Lounge!

Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my clit if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy!

*** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/

Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/

Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainings

And chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/

AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc

And on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialounge

Or support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagraf

Or at my Patreon here: https://patreon.com/freyagraf?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink

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This week on The Labia Lounge I'm rebooting an old classic. I've edited together the 3 episodes I recorded at Comfort Creek festival a couple of years ago, which was my first ever festival appearance with the IRL pussy couch! There are some wild conversations in here, and a pretty intriguing mystery that unfolds as we go. I think you'll dig it!

Captain Spice's chai can be found here: https://www.captainspice.com.au/

Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my clit if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy!

*** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/

Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/

Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainings

And chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/

AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc

And on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialounge

Or support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagraf

Or at my Patreon here: https://patreon.com/freyagraf?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink

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This week in The Lab Lounge I have an informal yarn with a mate about his battles with premature ejaculation, performance anxiety, perfectionism and neurodivergence, including his recent discovery that he has a form of OCD as well as ADHD.

We cover how he overcame this crippling insecurity and challenge in the bedroom, what worked for him and what didn't, and have some really fab discussions that I think you'll find insightful, validating, and helpful!

Plus you can expect all the usual antics and hilarious, vulnerable n' relatable personal stories and signature segments that you've come to know and love here in The Labia Lounge!

Check out Captain Spice's chai here: https://www.captainspice.com.au/

And SafeBAE's new resource for young boys and men here: https://www.checkyourvibe.org

Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my clit if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy!

*** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/

Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/

Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainings

And chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/

AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc

And on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialounge

Or support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagraf

Or at my Patreon here: https://patreon.com/freyagraf?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink

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This week in The Labia Lounge I'm re-releasing a favourite of mine with Jill from Sex Ed Princess.

Check out her work here: https://jill-lissner.com/

Plus you can expect all the usual antics and hilarious, vulnerable n' relatable personal stories and signature segments that you've come to know and love here in The Labia Lounge!

Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my clit if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy!

*** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/

Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/

Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainings

And chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/

AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc

And on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialounge

Or support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagraf

Or at my Patreon here: https://patreon.com/freyagraf?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink

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This week on The Labia Lounge I got to talk to lots of fascinating party goers at the latest Virtue & Vice play party event.

This is my 4th V & V party episode chatting with guests, and will be the last for some time as I let my vocal cords heal (I've recently discovered I've developed cysts on the suckers!)

This is the usual combo of funny stories, sexy stories, vulnerable stories, and downright awesome chats. Enjoy!

Check out SafeBAE's new resource for teenage boys and young men who feel they may have caused harm or crossed someone's boundaries. It's called Vibe Check and is sooo amazing! checkyourvibe.org

Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my clit if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy!

*** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/

Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/

Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainings

And chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/

AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc

And on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialounge

Or support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagraf

Or at my Patreon here: https://patreon.com/freyagraf?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink

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This Bonus installment of The Labia Lounge is another doozie from PBD festival and you're gonna absolutely die with laughter in this one! I interviewed a combo of folk from my world and punters at PBD where I set up The Labia Lounge, asking them for stories of when they've shat themselves. And let me tell you, they did not disappoint!!!

There's even a few side quests where we follow tangents about pet cats and family sex busts (what's that you ask? Listen to find out!)

Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my clit if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy!

*** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/

Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/

Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainings

And chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/

AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc

And on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialounge

Or support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagraf

Or at my Patreon here: https://patreon.com/freyagraf?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink

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In this special bonus episode of The Labia Lounge I set up the pussy couch at my favourite festival, PBD. I interviewed punters about their early masturbation experiences and their journeys of self discovery. We also end up discussing all sorts of other juicy stuff and it was such a treat to have some unexpectedly deep chats with these hilarious, intelligent, sensitive beings who had the courage to step on up to The Lab Lounge's velvet flaps!

Sit back and enjoy one of my favourite episodes with loads of my favourite humans! This one is really special, folk. xx

Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my clit if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy!

*** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/

Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/

Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainings

And chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/

AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc

And on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialounge

Or support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagraf

Or at my Patreon here: https://patreon.com/freyagraf?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink

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This week in The Labia Lounge I chat with Brooke Bralove about what shapes sexuality.

Brooke is a Clinical Social Worker, Psychotherapist, Sex Therapist, Certified Master Practitioner of Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART).

So she knows her shit!

TOPICS WE COVER:

• Why your pleasure is your responsibility—and how to claim it
• The messy influence of childhood, culture, religion, and body image
• The factors that shape our sexual identity, expression and pleasure potential
• What’s a kink vs. fetish? Where do our desires come from?
• Building anticipation, play, and eroticism in long-term relationships
• The power and healing potential of Accelerated Resolution Therapy for sexual trauma and challenges
• Shame-free parenting, sexual scripts, and rewriting your own sexual blueprint

Check out Brooke's work here: [email protected]

www.brookebralove.com

FB: https://www.facebook.com/brookebralovepsychotherapy/

IG: @brookebralovepsychotherapy

Tik Tok: @bbralovepsychotherapy

Threads: @brookebralovepsychotherapy

Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brookebralovepsychotherapy/

Plus you can expect all the usual antics and hilarious, vulnerable n' relatable personal stories and signature segments that you've come to know and love here in The Labia Lounge!

Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my clit if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy!

*** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/

Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/

Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainings

And chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/

AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc

And on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialounge

Or support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagraf

Or at my Patreon here: https://patreon.com/freyagraf?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink

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