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 7 Signs “Put God First” Was Not In Our Marriage Ep. 2

How do you put God first in your marriage in the place your marriage is lived most: at home?

Christian couples hear “put God first in your marriage” all the time, but many husbands and wives want to know what that actually looks like in everyday married life.

How do we put God first at home? How do we build a godly marriage? How do we communicate better in marriage? How do we understand each other better? How do we love our spouse better? How do we strengthen spiritual connection in marriage? How do we serve each other instead of only defending ourselves? How do we practice our faith when real moments happen between husband and wife?

In Ep. 2 of 7 Signs “Put God First” Was Not In Our Marriage, Debra and Jabari continue the conversation around what it means for Christian married couples to move from believing God should be first to practicing what God first looks like at home.

Putting God first in marriage becomes visible in everyday moments.

How you listen. How you respond. How you serve your spouse. How you seek to understand. How you choose humility. How you practice spiritual connection. How you let God’s Word shape what happens between you and your spouse.

For married Christian couples who want Christian marriage help, how to put God first in marriage, better communication in marriage, spiritual connection in marriage, how to love your spouse better, how to serve your spouse, understanding your spouse, Bible-based marriage help, and practical ways to build a godly marriage at home, this episode gives language to a question many couples are already asking.

A godly marriage is not built by saying the right phrase. It is built by practicing the right things at home.

Listen to 7 Signs “Put God First” Was Not In Our Marriage Ep. 2 with Debra and Jabari Steward of Keeping It Lit Media.

Follow The Lit Lounge Live for more Christian marriage help, Bible-based marriage discussions, conflict resolution strategies, better communication in marriage discussions, and practical ways to put God first in everyday married life.

7 Signs “Put God First” Was Not In Our Marriage Ep. 1 What does it actually look like to put God first in your marriage? Christian couples hear the phrase all the time: Put God first in your marriage. Keep God at the center. Build a godly marriage. Honor God with your spouse. But when marriage gets real, many couples begin asking deeper questions. What does putting God first look like when communication breaks down? What does it look like when conflict keeps repeating? What does it look like when grace is hard to give? What does it look like when busyness keeps taking over? What does it look like when you love God, want a godly marriage, but still do not know how to practice that belief at home? In this episode of The Lit Lounge Live Podcast, Debra and Jabari Steward open the conversation behind 7 Signs “Put God First” Was Not In Our Marriage. They grew up in church. They loved God. They believed in Christian marriage. They wanted to honor God as husband and wife. Then marriage began revealing what belief alone had not taught them how to practice. Ep. 1 begins with the question many married Christian couples are asking: How do we actually put God first in marriage at home? This episode speaks to Christian couples who want marriage help, Christian marriage advice, Bible-based marriage help, better communication in marriage, conflict resolution, deeper connection, spiritual connection in marriage, godly marriage guidance, and practical ways to honor God in everyday married life.

Christian marriage help for married couples asking, “What does it look like to put God first in your marriage?” In Episode 1, Debra and Jabari Steward of Keeping It Lit Media begin answering that question through their own marriage story. Christian couples are often told to put God first in marriage. But what does that actually look like when life is full, the calendar keeps moving, the children need something, work keeps pulling, and the marriage keeps getting what is left? This episode opens the first sign Debra and Jabari missed without naming it too soon. It looked normal. It looked responsible. It looked like family. But over time, it began burying the connection in their marriage. If you are a Christian married couple who wants a godly marriage, Bible-based marriage help, practical Christian marriage guidance, and a clearer way to put God first in everyday married life, this episode will help you begin the right examination. The question is not only, “Do we believe God should be first?” The question is, “Does our everyday married life show that He is?” Listen to Episode 1 of What Does It Look Like to Put God First in Your Marriage? with Debra and Jabari Steward.

You’ve been told to put God first in your marriage. But what does that actually look like on Monday? When the kids need you. When work follows you home. When your conversations become logistical. When you know what the Bible says, but you are not sure how to practice it together. The Lit Marriage Challenge helps Christian couples discover what putting God first in your marriage looks like in everyday life. Each week, you will receive one simple Lit Level-Up to practice together for seven days. The challenge begins in less than 12 hours. Download the Lit Marriage App on Apple or Android and turn on your notifications. Then send this post to your spouse and say: “We’re doing this.”

Every relationship faces conflict. What if those moments of tension could actually bring you closer instead of pushing you apart? In this episode of The Lit Lounge Live Podcast, you’ll discover practical steps for couples to transform conflict into deeper connection. What you’ll learn: How to communicate without constant arguing so both partners feel heard and respected. Simple strategies to turn disagreements into opportunities for trust and deeper understanding. Why conflict, when handled the right way, creates emotional safety, closeness, and lasting trust. Tools that work for couples everywhere—whether you’re dating, engaged, or married. Instead of letting fights drain your relationship, you’ll gain a clear path to use conflict as a bridge toward the love you’ve always wanted. No matter where you are in your journey, these relationship tips and communication strategies will help you build a relationship that feels deeply connected, alive with excitement, and rooted in purpose. Tune in now to The Lit Lounge Live Podcast and learn how to transform conflict into connection.

Welcome to The Lit Lounge Live! where Christian couples discover how to move beyond the busyness of life and build a marriage that’s deeply connected, alive of excitement, and rooted in purpose.

Hosted by Debra and Jabari Steward, Transformational Christian Marriage Architects and founders of Keeping It Lit Media, this podcast blends biblical wisdom and real conversation that empower Christian couples with a relational plan to begin establishing a healthy Marriage Culture in their home.

Whether you’re single, dating, newly married, leading in ministry, or years into your journey, The Lit Lounge Live! is your space to grow spiritually, communicate with love, and experience marriage the way God designed it.

Many couples find themselves serving in church, raising kids, and managing demanding careers, yet struggling to pray together, read The Bible together, or feel spiritually close and connected. Too often busyness becomes the silent thief of intentional connection.

In this episode of The Lit Lounge Live!, Debra and Jabari Steward, Transformational Christian Marriage Architects, and founders of Keeping It Lit Media, share a practical, Bible-based pathway to build spiritual connection in your relationship or your marriage.

You’ll discover:

Why busyness is one of the biggest threats to spiritual intimacy

Daily practices that help couples step out of busyness and into God’s Presence together

How The Keeping It Lit Signature Framework for Marriage Transformation gives couples God’s Relational Plan for building a marriage that is deeply connected, alive with excitement, and rooted in purpose

If you’ve ever asked, “How do we grow spiritually together as a busy Christian couple?” this conversation gives you the answers, encouragement, and tools you need.

We don’t just coach couples, we are the couple who had to do the work first. In this episode of The Lit Lounge: Real Talk for Christian Marriages, we walk through parts of our Marriage Reset Checklist—live, in real time. Not for show. For realignment. We're Debra and Jabari Steward. We help Christian couples transform their marriage from just 'fine' to truly phenomenal. We've built the frameworks and tools we wish we had when we were showing up more for our calendars than we were for our own marriage. The disconnect didn’t look dramatic—but it was deep. We were functional, responsible, even successful… but not truly connected. Inside this episode, we model: – A guided spiritual check-in that invites safety, not surface talk – Spoken appreciation—because appreciation, when spoken, strengthens connection – What it looks like to pause productivity and choose presence This isn’t a crisis conversation. It’s a calibrated reset—and an invitation to do the same. If your marriage looks “fine” on paper but feels off at the heart, this episode will show you what real, strategic, faith-shaped reconnection looks like. Because your marriage isn’t meant to settle. It’s meant to be whole, rooted, and phenomenal.

What Happens When God Feels Closer Than Your Spouse?

It’s a silent struggle many married couples face but hesitate to address. In this powerful and vulnerable episode, Jabari Steward shares the deeply personal story of following God’s call, the spiritual isolation that crept into his marriage, and the heartbreaking consequences that followed.

But this isn’t a story of defeat. It’s a testimony to God’s unshakable grace and His power to redeem what feels lost. In His perfect timing, God brought Debra into Jabari’s life—a radiant example of His ability to restore, renew, and exceed expectations. Today, Jabari and Debra walk in unity, serving side by side in marriage ministry, helping couples everywhere reconnect with God and each other.

If you’ve ever felt the weight of spiritual disconnection in your marriage, this episode offers more than hope—it reveals the practical steps and proven path to transformation. Your marriage doesn’t have to settle for “fine.” God designed it to thrive.

Key Takeaways: Spiritual Disconnection Can Be Silent but Powerful: When couples stop seeking God together, the gap begins to grow—and it quietly impacts every part of the marriage.

Unity Requires Intentionality: Spiritual connection isn’t automatic. It requires praying, fasting, and pursuing God as a team.

Redemption is Possible: No matter how broken things feel, God’s grace is greater. He can rebuild and create something extraordinary in the wake of loss.

A Clear Path to Transformation: The Keeping It Lit Signature Framework, created from personal experience, is helping couples reconnect spiritually, emotionally, and relationally.

A Heartfelt Invitation

Have you ever felt spiritually alone in your marriage, even while walking in faith? Have you noticed how the distance in your spiritual connection quietly seeps into every part of your relationship?

You don’t have to stay there.

This episode invites you to step into something new—a marriage rooted in faith, unity, and purpose.

Practical Action Steps Pray Together Daily: Begin with just five minutes, inviting God into your relationship as a team.

Fasting as a Couple: Choose a shared purpose and dedicate time to seek God together.

Have the Hard Conversations: Be vulnerable about where you feel disconnected and invite your spouse to do the same.

Explore the Signature Framework: Discover a proven, step-by-step pathway to create the connection you’ve always hoped for.

Words of Encouragement

Your marriage isn’t broken—it may simply need reconnection. The same God who created the heavens and the earth is capable of restoring the gaps in your relationship. His plan isn’t just for survival—it’s for transformation. And that transformation starts with one step. When you pursue God together, He will take the weight of spiritual isolation and replace it with unity, peace, and joy. Trust Him.

Reconnection is not only possible—it’s waiting for you.

Scripture for Encouragement

“Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” — Ecclesiastes 4:12

More from Jabari and Debra

Learn about the Keeping It Lit Signature Framework and how it’s transforming marriages by addressing the root cause of all marital struggle: Disconnect Stay connected with us for inspiration, encouragement, and tools to help you take your marriage from ‘fine’ to phenomenal.

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But what does that have to do with your marriage?

Everything.

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