Love can be both a blessing and a vulnerability—especially for those shaped by displacement, instability, or early emotional wounds.

In this episode, I speak with Zoey Charif, author of Love Can, In Fact, Be Calculated, about her unique “love formula”—a framework for understanding compatibility through self-awareness, values, and trait preferences.

We explore how many sensitive people fall into distortion patterns, like self-sacrifice, that lead to unbalanced or painful relationships. Zoey explains the crucial difference between values (what you aspire to) and traits (inherent qualities), and how both influence attraction.

With deep personal insight and analytical clarity, she shows how healing is possible when we reflect honestly on our past, rewire our patterns, and choose partners who meet us with real safety and respect.

Find Zoey's book here: www.amazon.de/-/en/Zoey-Charif/dp/9695892035

Find Zoey here:www.instagram.com/zoeycharif

Find Jole here: www.thesensitivesway.com

00:00 Zoey’s Story

01:14 Displacement & Sensitivity

04:02 Reframing Love

07:09 Love Formula Explained

13:08 Distortions & Patterns

16:03 Personality Types

20:54 Values vs Traits

25:16 Trauma & Rewiring

33:08 Who Needs This?

37:15 Final Reflections

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