Is there really a benefit to working with jerks?

Brian shares his thoughts on positive to take away from working with people you don't like.

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The main benefit to working with jerks.

I am Brian Pombo, welcome back to Brian J. Pombo Live.

Working with jerks.

Even the word jerk is kind of a funny thing, because in a very short period of time, relatively short period of time, the word jerk used to mean someone that was stupid.

It was used more often than that way kind of, in relationship with a moron, or it'd be the same type of synonym.

Nowadays, it means more of a person that's just kind of crude, and mean, mean oftentimes a jerk as a person, that's mean, you know, at least in American English, that's how I hear it used most often.

So that's how I'm using it here today I'm talking about the situation when you're working with a jerk. Okay.

And there's one huge advantage to working with a jerk.

That huge advantage is honesty.

Most people aren't honest enough to come out and say, when they don't like something, when they're not happy about something, when, what their true opinion is of something because they're afraid of getting fired, they're afraid of getting of a bad situation occurring, they're afraid of hurting people's feelings, all this other stuff.

So a huge advantage of being around jerks is that you get that direct, honest feedback as quickly as possible.

So how do you survive working with a jerk is being as direct as you can back to them without tossing offense on it?

I think most of the time, it really isn't the fact that someone's being honest, it's the fact that they do it in a crude manner, they oftentimes will have like, a little, a little extra zing in there a little emotional thing in with whatever offense that they're, they're giving or that they're trying to get a reaction out of you. That's really the issue with jerks.

But if you can do good at not reacting, and almost ignoring that piece of it, and just taking the good leaving the bad, the old salad bar effect of just leaving the rest there, I think you'll be happy with the results. And you should surround yourself with at least a few of these people. It tends to be the opposite.

If you're a business owner, or you're an executive, if you're one of the people in charge, oftentimes we surround ourselves with nice people, we surround ourselves with friendly people.

With the proverbial yes men, you know, the people that say yes to everything that you come up with. And don't argue and don't give you at least a contrary point of view, whether they agree with it or not a devil's advocate, so to speak.

This is really interesting that I thought about this, I've talked about this before this book, winning through intimidation, one of the best business books you can read in terms of understanding psychology, especially with one on one relationships in business. And even if you're, especially if you're a solopreneur.

If you're doing things, a lot of things on your own, but you still need to be able to work with other people. You know, what is the secret of that?

And he talks about this in his first chapter, he talks about the different types of people, I thought it was the first chapter, let me see here, I just had my finger on it. And now it's gone.

Where did I put it,